3 ways to get rid of someone you don't like
06 April 2016, 21:05
Nairobi - There are so many ways to end up in a bad situation, a bad
relationship or even a bad marriage. Honestly, the easiest one is usually when
you tell yourself you are just sticking around until something better comes
along. Once you put yourself in a
situation where you are with one person in mind, everything else just has to
follow. That is how people who were
warned ended up being in those situations. That is how someone who already knew
someone was a bad seed finds themselves in a bad marriage.
It is not that you do not know but you know; thing is you
lie to yourself that you are just passing time but in passing time you end up
entangled in a bad problem.
Do not invest your
emotions in whatever that is you two are having
I cannot pretend I know, but you do know. The worst mistake
you can ever do to yourself is investing in someone you already know is going
to mess you up. And how do you do that; with your emotions. Emotions make you
make excuses for them, keep loosening the leash and keep sweeping things under
the rag. Keep a tight leash on your emotions and you will not be blinded when
it comes to making the right decision for you; when it comes to cutting someone
off because now you are ready to move on.
Don’t build castles
Don’t make plans. The first step into anything is when you
make plans. Making plans is the reason people tend to think that a person will
change. So you stick around, not because they are being better but because you
are hopeful. Be hopeful for the right person but when this person has clearly
shown you their grey areas and they are not trying to work on them; realize
that this will not work for you. Unless you want to carry someone the whole
relationship; be ready to let go when the time comes to let go but as long as
you are thinking ‘what if’, you are sticking around.
If they have never
taken you seriously, then why are you?
They have never stepped up to have a conversation as to
whether you two can have something more. You are just there, hoping and
thinking that maybe one day they will see you in that way. They have never made
a move towards that direction. If anything, you are the one that is always
bringing up the topic and you are the one constantly being silenced. That is a
sign you need to take and if you were starting to get in your feelings, start
working OUT of them. If possible, spend less time with them until you
are ready to tell them you are moving on. Not for mind games but for you.
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