3 ways to deal with needy partners
03 February 2015, 15:18
Nairobi - The art of manipulation is just that; an art. Not every
individual can pull it off, because it needs finesse, time, patience and
discretion on your part rather than on the person that you are trying to pull
wool over their eyes.
The difference between men and women is that, women most
times have to fight and coerce their partner for what they want in a
relationship as compared to the men that expect it. We fight for their
appreciation, they expect it. You fight for his love and devotion while on the
other hand he expects it from you. You fight for the attention that you think
that he deserves while he gives it when he feels like it but when he barks he
expects you to come to heel and it is something that will never change.
how the roles were expected to be played: men get theirs handed on the platter,
women have to work to get it. The same way, he expects to be the head while you
are the tail when the roles are reversed he looks for another way to get it.
Being independent does not mean being emasculating, being
dependent is not being needy
The part where women
get it wrong about dependence and independence is when they blur the lines with
neediness. Men wanting you to need them as the provider does not necessarily
mean that you drop everything and be his servant. Needing him as your man means that he is
there to take care of what you cannot but he can and you still being able to do
the rest for yourself. The trick here is for you to be able to ask for help
rather than find ways to tell him how he does not do enough for you to make it
easier for you.
Let him see that you can thrive without him but when the
time comes for him to step in, you are more than willing to let him take the
reins for you.
Sex should not be a tool to manipulation
A man can smell it a
mile away. You can do it, he will let you, but he will despise you for it
especially when you use it more as a tool for punishment or a boon for getting
what you want.
On the other hand,
using seduction as a play to lead to manipulation is different. Because what
you are doing instead is being a tease for him by going out of what might not
be your comfort zone. It can also be part of your foreplay as it can be playful
since he already knows you are doing it to get something out of him.
You receiving orders
from him has never worked on you so why do women think that men receiving them
will work better?
It is much better to request and at a time when he is not
zoned out on the television or having a conversation with someone else. The
thing is to ask and make it look like something he would like to do for you
that he came up with as an idea on his own. Does not matter if you are the one
that starts the conversation.
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