3 ways to deal with her sexual past
19 February 2015, 14:25
Nairobi - When you meet your partner or the person that you hope will be
your partner you have positive and beautiful thoughts about them. At least I
hope you do because I am not a man and I hope that you are not so narcissistic
that you look for a partner that is lacking or you have ugly thoughts about.
But when it comes to the person that you want to be the mother of your
children, you actually do hope that she is lacking when it comes to the number
of lovers that she has had. Which is quite contradictory on your part because
you want her since she is beautiful, intelligent and wholesome. In other words,
chances are she has dated other people and obviously might not be too virginal
for your tastes.
Nairobian/ Kenyan men have a certain complaint about
Nairobian women. We seem to be too promiscuous and too around town for your
taste. Call it a case of calling the kettle black because we are not being
promiscuous on our own but with your help. It is like you want to eat your cake
and still have it too, unless you want to resort to robbing the cradle but then
she will not be sophisticated enough for your tastes.
So when you are dating this woman, what is really going on
through your head? Obviously you have doubts and if both of you have gone all
the nine yards you are always going to have needling doubts at the back of your
mind about those who have come before you. What do you do?
Do not ask, don’t tell....
The rule in most relationships should be; don’t ask, don’t
tell because the truth is after some people hear the truth they either a)
become angry b) wonder why they asked or c) wish they had not asked. Most
people do not want to hear the truth and when it comes to sex all of us do not
want to know especially if that is the partner that you actually want to end up
Do not ask about the ex. Do not ask for a comparison because
this one you are just asking to be lied to. You cannot expect your partner to
tell you that you are worse or completely lacking in something.
Just like Eve was a sinner Adam was too....
Unless you are a virgin, waited until you were married and
then realized that she had duped you, you cannot complain. You hate it when she
puts you on the 90-day rule, you do not want her to ‘do it’ on the first date
because you want her to be different. Yet you are the one that is constantly
trying to move the relationship to the next level. So if she agrees, it is your
fault when she fails that particular test. It is also your fault that you have
those thoughts like, ‘does she do this with everybody else?’ If you ask, it is
your fault when she lies because she will tell you ‘no’ and that ‘you are
Virgins still exist but how are you going to find them....
Unless you have that Alcoblow type of contraption that can
be switched for looking for a virgin that is a weird type of conversation that
you are setting yourself up for. I am also not too sure about the success rate
of such a search.
In other words, if you are the type of Kenyan man that wants to deal with Nairobi women; intelligent,
beautiful, sophisticated, worldly and secure then you had better be man enough
and not start asking some questions that you cannot handle the answers to.
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