3 ways to deal with cheating
01 February 2016, 18:42
Nairobi - For a lot of couples especially after a while of being
together and things stagnating; the fear is whether the other partner will
eventually cheat. Or will they reach a point where they would rather be with
someone else rather than with the person they are with right now.
First of all, there are a couple of grounds I should cover
first with regard to this topic.
If they are cheating now, marriage will not
If throughout your whole relationship they have
never respected you enough to respect your relationship; but still have their
little side dishes then this article cannot help.
If you have to constantly check on them and have
little conversations on what they are about out there with other people; you
are already failing. You can never be happy with someone who makes you
Basically, the above individuals are not affair proof.
Never forget the
person you married or chose to commit to
The reason a lot of spouses eventually go out and look for
the extra zing is because at one point in time; the two of you forgot about
each other. Your conversations are basically about the kids; what bills need to
be paid and that is it. You don’t inquire after you partner, how they are doing
and what it is they would like to do off late. You two rarely spend time with
each other it becomes common place. Someone eventually finds that excitement
with someone else and even if it ends badly; that is usually a wake up call for
most couples to take a look at how bad their relationship went. That hurt that
you feel when someone betrays you; shows you the affection you two eventually
lost towards each other.
People do grow yes,
but don’t lose sight of what actually brought the two of you together
What attracted you to them, what you two liked to do
together and what part of your relationship you miss the most. The moment you
note certain things happening; then speak up and step up. Do not take excuses
like too much work, lack of time and what not; if they can find time to eat
lunch with a business partner; they can find time to eat dinner with you. Let
them make it happen but the moment you keep quiet and let things continue
sliding; you are helping create a gap that will be harder to bridge especially
if someone else steps in.
Accept your part in
actually making your relationship work.
At times two people get so involved with their own business
by the time they realize that something is wrong, it is too late. That is how
people fall out of love and how people come to ask themselves, ’how did I even
ever like this person?’ You simply just forgot what it feels like to have them
around which makes it easier to pick another person.
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