3 ways to avoid bad dates
27 August 2015, 14:35
Nairobi - “A stitch in time saves nine.” It is better to save yourself
now rather than wait until shit happens for you to start figuring out how to
save yourself from it. Not just in dating, relationships and marriage but
Choose the right person in the first place
Just because somebody asks you out on a date, does not mean
you have to go. It is always that simple. You already know if you like this
person or not unless it is a stranger you met at a coffee shop. At times, you
just know but because you are bored or have no plans for dinner or lunch. Or
you need free supper for today, you decide, ‘what the hell? I have nothing to
lose.’ So you go, have a bad time with someone you already knew you did not
want or like just from what you already seen and complain. At times it is just
as simple as declining.
Be the one who decides the time and day it should take place
Do not let someone rush you into anything if you are not in
the right frame of mind. Do things at your own pace. If you have a lot to deal
with at work and you know your mind is not there; just decline and say you will
tell them when you are ready. At times, you are just not in the mood to make
conversation, decline. Do not go and sit opposite someone and not even talk to
them because you are just elsewhere. That is how people end up with no second
Be open minded
Different is good sometimes. You do not have to dress up and
have wine at some ritzy joint for that to be a date. If you are a chilled out
person, do what you normally do. Agree to do something different. Walking a
trail is a good way to get to know someone because you are talking casually and
you are killing three birds with one stone. You get to know if they are fit,
you exercise and you actually get to know someone because you are talking.
Unlike most dates where either your mouth is stuffed the whole time or you are
watching a movie and cannot talk between scenes.
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