3 tips to ensure a successful relationship
04 February 2016, 14:09
Nairobi - Relationships are for adults, if you are not one yet, you
should stay away from them. That way, you avoid hurting the people who are
clearly ready for it. Relationships also require a certain level of
maturity-being able to distinguish right from wrong; that way, you do not have
to keep involving people from the outside about your relationship. You also
know when to keep picking on a situation or letting it go.
Keeping friends on
Having friends is not a bad thing. Taking advice from them
is also not horribly bad but you need to learn when they know enough and when
you run the risk of too much information. Just know when they can step in and
when they cannot or should not comment on something. Don’t allow them to be
petty or pick on your partner-otherwise you are not good relationship material.
Taking too much of
your relationship problems outside
You need to be able to talk to your partner even when in
your worst situation. You need to know how to solve most of your relationship
problems just the two of you, otherwise you are with the wrong person. Inviting
too many people in creates more problems on their own; that thing that Africans
do on going to the village or bringing the whole village to your house to discuss
an issue is sort of outdated. They also tend to make a problem more complex or
find new ones for you. Same applies where friends and relatives are concerned.
Always making a
scenario out of everything
Don’t look for problems where there are none. Someone gets
tired of having to keep defending themselves. They get tired of constant
arguments. People get tired of someone who never misses a chance of correcting
them because you are always right and they are wrong apparently-even if they
are. Have an argument about a forgotten bill or misplaced receipt not about a
toothbrush or forgotten packet of milk.
For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.