3 tips to avoiding a bad marriage
31 March 2016, 19:48
Nairobi - Marriage is quickly becoming obsolete by the way. In our
society it is even more obvious because there are less and less people willing
to settle down when they can get into convenient arrangement and no one to give
them a baleful eye. Parents are even inciting it rather than condemning it
because of their bad experience. They are the ones telling you; focus on school
and getting your own money, don’t ruin your life by bringing wrong people in.
So today there really is no pressure.
On the other hand, there are people that are still a bit of
some traditionalists who like the idea of family and not just going to an empty
house. There are people who don’t enjoy the idea of a bar24/7 because of the
nothingness in your life.
So how do enjoy family and all aspects of it without the
drama. The answer has always been simple-the right partner. Get the partner
wrong and that is your downhill.
Love is nice but love
is only 1/8…the rest 7/8 are other things
You have to choose someone that is bearable in their worst.
Their characteristics and habits are not things that you are looking to change.
Don’t marry because of love and infatuation because they are no the things that
will help you keep it together when this person is driving you toward the wall.
At times you will forget about love but if you can appreciate the other things
about them, then it will be easier.
Someone you have the
right type of communication with
Silent treatments are not a good sign in a relationship. Not
being able to confront your issues is really risky. Walking on eggshells, will
not save your situation; if you have this type of relationship, be wary unless
you can solve this problem, you are committing yourself to doom. You are setting
the tune to your marriage and that is why for most couples after the kids are
no longer there to keep the conversation going, you are mum around each other.
You have reached a point where there is nothing to talk about.
If you two while
dating keep meeting roadblocks, there is problem
It can be constant push and pull on money, family problems,
decisions making-you two cannot just catch a rest day. You have a problem and
you really should consider letting that relationship go. I am not saying that people
do not have their issues but at least, they are not always dealing with
something. As if they are forcing the relationship. End it before you get in
hot water and look for someone you can be amicable with. Hot tempers and high
heat are not always about passion unless it’s in the bedroom.
This part is very important because most couples overlook it
thinking that as long as they are talking, arguing and solving it’s a good
deal. A relationship is not a job where you are employed to solve
problems-people do get tired. That is why down the line after making such a big
commitment couples end up with bigger issues like affairs, cheating, adultery,
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