3 things you should not do for him
24 September 2015, 15:15
Nairobi - What can you allow your partner to take away or not to take
away just because you are in a relationship with them?
Love is used as an excuse just so anyone can get away with
anything but is it right though?
When I get into anything I normally have set rules of what
he can or cannot do but as everything progresses I realize that maybe this was
not important but maybe this was.
Boundaries extend to family
Family is sensitive and even your partner can never
understand it. Unless your partner is the life-long kind it can get really hard
on you trying to be the mediator.
Family can be abusive to you or them, hurtful or destructive
but unless your partner is willing to see it you cannot fix it for them. This
is the worst kind because everything might be working out on your relationship
but they are not.
To your money
When a partner already has a plan on how you will spend your
money. They already have a budget and they want you to do this or that and if
you do not they get really angry then they are not the ones for you.
Partnership is all about compromise but not anyone standing aside.
They are tricky because it is never a black or white area.
You will have to be the one to decide whether they are meaningful to you, your
relationship and what your partner thinks. We tend to close our eyes to what we
do not want to see or hear. Boundaries include friends because they are the
reason that our partner ends up fighting us. Are you ready to lose some because
that is usually the point of contention.
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