3 things women should not feel bad about
04 February 2016, 10:54
Nairobi - Women have a habit of feeling bad about some things. Here are some not to.
When a man turns you down
Women do not own rejection ever; bet it has something to do
with self-esteem. But I do assure you, you will not be the first and what is
not tasty for one person is sweet for the next person. You should never let a
man’s no get you down; even I have had my moments.
I remember this one time I was having Sunday catch up with
one of my friends and as we are leaving, I spot a very good-looking
person, it was a man; a good-looking man. So I tell my friend, I like this
person, she dares me to go talk to him and I am like what do I have to lose
anyway. My friend is Ethiopian; you already know what happened. He zinged in on her and you could see the drool coming from his mouth.
I never even catch
feelings when that happens because my taste and hers are totally different. So
when I saw he was paying more attention to her; I just rolled my eyes. The
worst thing you can do as a woman is fighting for a man when he is already
showing you he does not want you. The worst thing you can do is try to have a ‘competition’ with your friend to see who
will get there faster. I don’t like to waste my time, so I just took the L very
regally and we left. Dude lost anyway because she did not like him like that
(different tastes in men) and I have a code with my friends, we don’t share men
and if she knew I liked him she wouldn’t do anything with him anyway. But they
did sell an apartment together; I have nothing against getting money.
Moral of the story: Female friends should have different
taste in men and you should be friends with people who are confident in
themselves and their beauty. That way you do not pull hair in a fight for
2. I did not die when I realized I was not going anywhere
with him; there are many more where that came from.
3. Ethiopian women are very pretty; I think I have two
because I also like to stare at them.
4. Have friends that are tiny; they would just never dare.
But if you have Godzilla companions, I can bet you they are always thinking of
how they can beat you up if you try something.
When your husband or boyfriend does not want to discuss his salary
You are not the first or will be the last to try it. No man
wants his wife or girlfriend knowing his salary unless he is pompous.
If he also knows your expectations are very high in life, he will do his utmost
best to hide it. You just have to be smart if you ever want to and have to find
out. Just don’t create tensions in a relationship or ruin it because you are
going through something that every woman does.
When your man asks you to split the bills with him
There is never a way you can get this argument right by the
way. Women earn also and men have to be providers because they are the head of
the home. There is also, ‘my money is my money and your money is our money!’
You can just never win this argument.
There is also the fact that when a woman sees her female
friend or relation being taken care of, it gets to her. Just pick the man that will
understand you and where you are coming from. Women pick men with different
values from their own and complain later. I saw a Samantha’s bridal the
other day and the man, he was Luhya by the way, made the wife-to- be change her
honey moon and it was not that extravagant; trust me. She had chosen something
for forty k so not flying anywhere but just a nice hotel and nice weekend stay;
he pushed the budget to 20k and they were splitting. Not even a present. He was
just boisterous and arrogant about it which could make you realize he was just
being a jerk and not really nice for even that one event in her life. From the
way he was talking it is as if she was in store for some good punishment in her
life after marriage. She also looked sad and you could just see, she just wants
to get married even though she does not like the man. She just wanted the ring
but not the man. Why do women put themselves through such?
When your man tries to get ahead of you just tell him what
is up. He can compromise, take it or leave it. Don’t hang onto bad situations.
You will always pay for them later even if not now.
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