3 things women fall for easily
19 October 2015, 21:40
Nairobi - Someone, a man, once asked me what makes one man different
from the other. Do you know there are men who never have to take their women on
dates because she just chooses to go see him?
I am not going to pretend, I have been there and I have
such. I am not going to lie. Yes, I have codes of conduct when it comes to what
man can see what my panties color are like but at times I throw that out of the
window and I will tell you why.
Recently, I went to see a friend of mine. I even paid for a
taxi from Rongai….Rongai to go see him (it was an emergency so I had to move
fast). If you are Kenyan and know about Rongai, you know that it is some type
of Diaspora and no one would like to pay that kind of fare leave alone a taxi.
Icing on the cake? I told that man I am not paying that much to go back home
again. He told me, I do not have to and gave me the money for a taxi back. I
did not pay for an Uber anyway. Told the taxi guy to drop me in town and took a
matatu (grinning). My man knew anyway
because I did that right in front of him, I am not a liar you know! Had the
money in my purse though…..
These are the rules to being a gentleman
You can open my door but you are an asshole
Women put too much emphasis on the very petty things. Why? Because
that is what society has taught you but I need you to break out of that. You
need to look at the man you are with and consider how he treats you when it is
just the two of you. That is what matters. A gentleman is not because he opens
doors or pays for a meal but he takes into consideration your effort. That is
what you need. My man knew the expense I had taken into going to see him, yours
Remember what she puts in and top that off
Look at what your woman is doing for you and top that off
because if you do not someone else will. Women feed off appreciation. It is
even worse if she is your wife because when you do not, other men love things
that are already taken so another man will. Some other man is whispering in her
ears so when she stops she is done. That is harder to get back because a woman
is harder to bring back when she lets go of something.
It is just about her
One thing men get wrong, even women, is when they
generalize. Just because you read something somewhere does not mean that it
floats her boat. Do something that is just for her and not what everybody else
tells you. You have been dating her or in a relationship with her so I am
hoping you know her. Do something that is just for her. Get her something that
is just for her. Tell her something that is just for her. Her personal struggle
is what should tell you to get for her not her best friend.
The small things do matter
Not to you but to her. I swear KES 3000 is not cool for a
cab. It was not dark but on a Sunday afternoon. It dented me and hurt me as I
paid for it but for the guy it was something small, literally. He was already
going to pay for it even before I knew. That is why I went to see him at his
house and not ask for a ritzy affair at some expensive joint. It is that simple
Being a gentleman is not just about some book you should
read but when and how you choose to employ it around your woman. It is good to
open doors, I like my doors opened, really! But what else? That will get you
cheaper dates and a less demanding woman and that is what you need when you are
just getting to know someone!
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