3 things to consider before getting married
05 May 2016, 23:31
Nairobi - Is he the right person for you. Here are three ways to gauge.
They should never
cheat on you
I read this post yesterday, ‘all men cheat. You should
understand it and accept it as long as your man takes care of everything else,
don’t dwell on it.’ Obviously, I had a face after that because worse, it was a
If you decide to get married to someone, don’t go into it
with expectations of the worst that could happen because you will get it. Not
everyone cheats and if your partner feels like they have not finished tasting
everything they need to, they are not the one for you. I just know one thing,
if you meet someone and they make you feel like you no longer like me enough to
respect me when I am not there to police you, you better tell me. I will not
hold onto you and fight you. It is hard forcing someone to love you-too many
men in the world for me to take that shit.
I also know people don’t accidentally do anything, it takes planning to choose
a hotel, time and make sure you don’t smell like someone- no coming back after
that. That is my opinion because if I find out on my own you will not like the
results. So just come talk to me like a sane individual. I think I am rational
and I will let you go have ‘fun’. The kids will not have to come into it.
You do not have to put
up with poor living because of love
Potential is a very dangerous thing because it blinds you at
times. It is okay to believe in someone but judge their actions; building a
life with someone takes 50-50 effort. Let it not be you alone who is working
very hard to make every end meet. You look after the kids, the bills, food and
everything else on your own. Yeye ako
tu because ana dreams. Dreams are nice but your kids cannot eat dreams and if
it is yet to pay to take them to school, keep that 9-5 to sort that out. Don’t
quit and now sit at home-all of you looking at each other. Someone should have
passion but also realize that that is their part time, full time, it is you the
person they chose to commit to. Work for your family, make sure they are okay,
and then take care of your passions because if it is not feeding them, you are
letting the other person shoulder everything a lone. That is not fair.
You want a partner and
The second point applies to this. You want someone who is
there with you and for you as much as you are there with them and for them. A
partner ill include you and they will understand where you are coming from even
in an argument or disagreement. Don’t propagate silent treatment because you
end up looking stupid. You want someone that consults with you and is not
afraid to help you with your new born. It is so bad when you have a man who
thinks it is unmanly to help you with the child. You will get home from work;
the help has gone and left the baby with the neighbor-she silently resigned.
You have to do everything on your own as well as watch the kid but your man is
sitting on the couch. You have a problem.
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