3 things successful women want in relationships
30 March 2016, 19:05
Nairobi - What do successful women want in relationships? Here are three.
There is nothing
worse than good sex from the wrong man for you
That thing will and can ruin your life. One of the things
that a woman who is doing well in all scopes of life including relationships
will eternally be grateful for is this. There is nothing worse than stumbling
across the wrong person either at the wrong or right time in your life. If you
can easily walk away from a man who is doing you wrong left right and center
but the sex is not blinding you from making the wrong decision; or thinking you
can stick it out until you are ready- you have achieved something really
massive in life my dear, let no one tell you different.
A lot of women’s lives, careers, work, family life or plans
have been ruined because she made the mistake of landing Mr. Wrong but he was
that good in that. Everybody is asking but why can’t you just leave him, why
are you sticking around? She will look at you dumbfounded but I bet you she
knows. That is how some men end up being kept, living the easy going life, not
doing what they need to do like stepping up and any other thing you can think
of because I am sure you know what I am talking about. I am also sure an
individual or two comes in mind when you think of this.
A man who is
supportive and not bruised by what she is doing or capable of doing
Ego is sensitive, everyone has ego-even women have ego and
ego ruins relationships. A week ago I came across an article talking about the
type of women Kenyan men do not like when it comes to their careers-typical!
You will get angry about it but when you realistically think about it, it is
sort of true. What I always say is this; you cannot dumb down for a man or let
a man take away from you. There is a woman out there who will be told to leave
her work or a young lady will not study something because she knows it might
affect her family-wise. Successful
women, never dumb down, they do what suits them and when the right man comes a
long, he takes her as she is and appreciates her for it.
If you keep trying to please someone other than yourself, it
will affect you and eventually the relationship and the same person you were
working so hard to please will easily just go pick what you thought they do not
want. It is not about being submissive but the type of happiness that comes
from you because you are doing what you like. You are not giving him the burden
of him trying to figure out you happiness because you already have that. You
have no idea how tedious it is for a man not to be able to make the woman he is
with happy, it becomes like a sort of failure for him. No one wants a reminder
of failure so if you are not happy, you will just see him chasing after what
you initially thought he did not want.
You are angry? That is just how it works. Know your own mind when
getting into anything.
Being able to balance
family and career
Of course she wants to succeed at both but it does get
tricky. You will also find that having a supportive partner comes in handy when
that time comes. If they are able to step in while you are away and not keep
creating an issue from it, then you have a keeper. Thing is, most women get the
polar opposite so for most, they do drop out because who is she going to leave
her babies to? You cannot trust helps 24/7. That is why for some women, they
resurface years later trying to revive her career and catch up with her former
peers. But so much time has passed, it tends to get hard and tricky, so she
easily gives up, stays at home but gets bitter and finds consolation in her
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