3 things men say that women always ignore
06 April 2016, 19:55
Nairobi - See I don’t think there is anything wrong with having
ambition in your life as a woman. Making the best choices for the life you
want, choosing the jobs that most satisfy us, choosing where you want to live
and planning for the family you would like. Now planning for the family that we
would like is normally the tricky part for most women because when you are
doing that, you want to at least have the sort of best even if not the best.
What normally goes wrong with that plan? The men! The man
that you choose; it is going to work either of the following two ways, it is
either you are going to get him or you are not. When you do not get him it is either because
he is taken or he is just not interested. That last bit is the one that women
have a problem with. He can be taken but when a man says no to any woman that
approaches him it can be both comical or can get out of hand; which is why we
are having the following conversation.
When he says he is
not ready for marriage, take it and date someone that already thinks of you as
When you are dating for something serious and the first
thing a man tells you is that he is not ready for marriage or family, he does
not want that with you. I am sorry sis; there are just not too many ways to go
about this. Do not stick around to try changing his mind or showing him. He is
just not ready for that with you. Trust me; in the blink of an eye when he sees
the women he wants, he will be ready for mortgage, pension and family reunions,
as long as it is with her.
Go for the man that is dating you as someone he could
potentially marry if that is what you want and are looking for.
I am not ready for a
Most women end up in bad relationships where they are
treated as they would not like to be but wishing for more because the man takes
them for granted. He knows why you are there, you laid your cards on the table
and he laid his, you stuck around so you became convenient. He was not with
someone but the idea of being able to call you because you are available is also
good looking. He is not using you. You just put yourself there.
Again, he is just not ready for a relationship with you
because to him, you are not his type. You can stick around for part time
treatment is that is what you want for the moment; it is also sort of safer
when you have one safe partner to have sex with instead of jumping around. No
one is mad at that as long as you two are agreeable to the terms and
conditions. But if you are doing it to get more later, you are setting yourself
up. Be there but when boyfriend/ husband material comes along and wants you,
smarten up, call that agreement off and be with someone that wants you. This
one already made a choice and it is not you; right from the beginning.
There is someone I
like and I want to be with her
The hearts that lines breaks but no woman is going to admit
she has ever been told that. Worst case is when you know the other girl. Even
more worse is when you know about her bad habits and you do not want to be that
woman. A times some have stooped that low but the guy still wanted that other
So what happens is, she sticks around trying to give out
pointers but is on the low trying to get the man on her side and from hers. You
might get the man but you will always feel shortchanged because whenever she is
around, your man still sees that thing that first drew him to her and it always
gets to you. So now, its girlfriend or relationship?
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