3 things men LOVE in women
05 November 2015, 14:59
Nairobi - Let me put it this way, at times you see a man; very good
looking, well to do, perfect well mannered, a gentleman, a man’s man and he
knows how to take care of his woman. You look on his side and we all know what
I meant when I said a woman who does not make sense; she does not fulfill all
those societal standards on what a woman should look like-pretty/beautiful,
some type of body shape and dressing. The woman on his arm is just kawaida for luck of a better word. Her
body does not have any type of shape and her dressing sense is very lacking.
You sit down and think why can’t I; with everything that I
have not attract that type of a man? What does she have?
Beauty is not a qualification
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but let us just take
that out and say she has none; but let me tell you a good woman is just a good
woman. That is just it. I am not saying that you cannot be beautiful and also
be good but the reason you are being ignored is because of the other 90% who
have created a misconception and a stereotype that you are being held to
account for. Most beautiful women have this attitude of, ‘you need to climb a
ladder in order for you to get to me’; such high standards, such great demands
of what are you bringing to the table? But so little to offer afterwards. You
look good on the arm, can hold a conversation and you can make a good hostess
but after that, what next. Yet you still expect a man to lie at your feet.
Well-to-do men do not lie
down, ever. One of you is going to have to back down and if you are too full of
pride to do that, well then there is your answer as to why she has that man and
you do not.
She is submissive when in matters
I am not saying he walks all over her. Let us just be
honest, that thing about submissiveness is actually true. Men are actually
attracted to that; even the weakest of them. So it is just a matter of choice
that comes from you. You want to get married, have children and have a partner;
well then, you do not have to make every conversation and discussion a battle
Women misinterpret that quote about a man respecting a woman
if she does not allow him to walk all over her. That does not mean he loses his
respect along the way. If a man is providing well for you and your family some
decisions you just have to let him have them; especially when you know they are
the things that matter to him. Men are so easy to please if you just know how
to go about it. You only battle with someone who is drinking away all your
You have to let go of some of your pre-dispositions
Dating, relationships and marriage; it is all a game, a game
of strategy. You see someone, he is a catch and he is what you are looking for,
he gives you two minutes to make a presentation; loose all those mannerisms you
adopt. Be submissive, be wife material and be low maintenance all at once. Lose
that bored expression on your face that tells people that they have to please
you to get anywhere. You think that because you are beautiful and well dressed
he will overlook the one looking meek and boring behind you so you roll your
eyes. Just wait, she will get the date and you will go back home to remove all
that make-up you wore for nothing.
Someone is reading this article and saying how I need to
stop taking women back to the 18th century. It is okay, be like
that. As I said, it is a matter of strategy and knowing when to back down. The
best strategists win and those who are too high to get down can continue
walking in the clouds. If you are satisfied, that is all that matters; but do
not complain when you are still stuck in the same position.
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