3 solid reasons why all women should go for wealthy men
21 June 2016, 08:28
Just recently, while flipping over some TV channels, I bumped into a topic that has been a subject of discussion over several generations; the question about whether status and financial stability are important qualities of a potential mate; of course alongside intelligence, ambition and a desirable set of physical features. The question of marrying up.
Marrying up (scientifically referred to as Hypergamy) is the act of a woman marrying a man of a higher social status than herself.
However, this should not be confused with gold digging, as the latter refers to the phenomenon of women chasing after wealthy men (a.k.a. Sponsors and Blessers) with the expectation of financing their expensive lifestyles.
So, now that we are in agreement about that, here’s why Marrying Up should be encouraged:
It’s the Rule of Nature
Scientifically speaking, natural selection and specifically mate selection is the reason the human species is still in existence.
Evolutionary psychologists are in agreement that due to harsh environments, the early man had to select the right combination in a potential mate. Reason being that it enabled the advancement of evolution’s ultimate purpose; survival and reproduction.
It is for this reason that since time immemorial, women have been known to be more attracted to men who have the ability to take care of them and their potential offspring.
Back then, these characteristics used to include masculine features i.e. muscular physique, strong jaw, and facial hair, as these indicated adequate testosterone for fertility and strength.
However, in today’s modern world, these desirable traits have been replaced by financial stability and social status; as in addition to being considered a better provider, a man with a solid financial footing is perceived as being better placed to offer emotional and psychological security for the woman and her offspring.
Clearly, it is way beyond us all. This is mother nature at work.
Cushion against life’s financial struggles
Man or Woman, we all desire to improve our living standards and ultimately achieve maximum comfort in life. It’s a natural human need.
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In 2015, a study by researchers from Chapman University in California sought to find out what exactly ‘desirable’ and ‘essential’ traits are for men and women.
The study reaffirmed a common gender stereotype; men prefer beautiful women, while women prefer financially stable men. As a matter of fact, a staggering 97% of the women who participated in the study said they preferred a man with steady income.
According to the study, when it comes to long term relationships, a majority of women give preference to someone who is wealthier, more successful, or of a higher social status than them.
Perhaps money makes life easier, maybe even happier?
Now do not get me wrong. Ask any woman and they will tell you they wish to have the option of taking several months off work (or just work part time) so as to be with their new born baby; without having to worry about how the bills will be settled. Some even wish they could fully focus on raising their kids.
Despite many women not dreaming of being the sole providers in the relationship (read marriage), when it happens, most want it to be a two way traffic.
Need I remind you that a man who lives off a woman it is not so attractive?
Reflection of our society
When all is said and done, we are the product of our society; a reflection of it.
Traditionally, men have been the dominant ones in relationships. For ages, society has expected them to take the lead especially since the role and title of ‘breadwinner’ and ‘provider’ are associated with the head of the family, the man. Women on the other hand are structured to offer support to this head.
But while I acknowledge the fact that today, more and more women are scaling the heights of career and making pots of money, it is also true that very few of them want to be the ones wearing the pants in the relationship.
Now since it is the one who brings home the bacon that gets to decide how it is cooked, it is only right that the man takes the dominant role by making more and being the chief provider.
When you give a chance to the whole picture, you realize that women who marry up are far from how some people paint them- cheap opportunists and leeches- but rather smart farsighted human beings whose only desire is to acquire the best for themselves and their offsprings.
So go ahead ladies, marry up and don’t apologize for it.
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