3 signs you need to break up already
11 April 2016, 23:06
Nairobi - You need to break up right now. Here are three signs you do.
You are together because you had an ‘oops’ moment
The couple that were not sure where they were heading; both
of them knew that the relationship was over but no one wanted to be the first
to step up and end it. In that waiting period, you know what happened- they
fell pregnant. So they decided to stay together for the child’s sake but you
are still having the same problems but now you are not sure what to do.
It will be worse, when the two of you decided to have an
even bigger family together when you know you two are already not working out.
One of you will get hurt because eventually someone will step out and more
people, the children, will get hurt. If it is not working out now, you two can
decide on the best co-parenting but don’t force a relationship because of one
child. You two can co-parent but still have better marriages and relationships
with better partners.
You two are always fighting and arguing
That is what some couples call passion in a relationship.
That is not passion but dysfunction. Getting into bar fights, having shouting
matches every time, everywhere; that is not a good foundation for you to have
any type of healthy relationship with this person; or to build any family on.
You two need a break and if you are mature enough, you will figure out if that
was something healthy you were actually involved in or you can do better as an
Your families know each other
Have you ever seen a man’s mother bringing him a woman from
the village because she comes from better stock as compared to the chimneys you
find in Nairobi-yes that actually happens. If the man cannot stand his ground,
you better prepare yourself to be a co-wife, second wife or side chick. You
will think it is not working out and he will tell you he is going to sort it
out. Thing is, if that other girl is beautiful, cooks, cleans and has no idea
where you can find a bar in Nairobi. And sleeps on the sofa waiting for the man
of the house to get in at eleven so that she can cook-you are in
As a woman you need to be realistic with yourself when you
do not see your man defending you or letting his mother know who is boss.
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