3 signs you are with the wrong person
12 July 2016, 17:06
Nairobi - Most people do not know of the significance
of the impact that a relationship and the person you choose to be with has on
your life. We tend to assume that you can compartmentalise it the way you can
like your work, career, school and everything else like your social life.
But committing to someone and relationships
have a way of changing who you are, how you think and how you tend to approach
things. So when you choose to be with a person that is not meant for you, you
will indirectly influence every other aspect of your life.
We choose to be in relationships these days
not because of affection, love, you actually liking the person and wanting to
be with them but because; we are in a rush, it seems like the next step-makes
sense, everyone else around you has
settled and you are the only one remaining among other reasons.
let the relationship define you
Because it is your focus, it becomes your
sole purpose. You tend to lose yourself in that relationship because you did
not know how to be alone and finding yourself. That is why some break ups
eclipse some people. You now do not know how to move on or start from where
because they were your ‘world’.
dictate your decisions
You would have really liked to go another
way but since they do not like it that way, you do what they want. Someone who
is meant for you, will understand the direction that you are coming from with
any situation and everything. They will advise but not dictate or judge your
decisions to a detrimental effect.
You will do whatever you need to do without
feeling guilty on its effect on your relationship.
values are not in sync
You know why they tell you to settle with
someone that has the same values as you do? Because it matters. You do not want
to try and grow, develop and move in a certain direction with someone that does
not get ‘it’ or you. You will be frustrated and in most times what happens is
that people give up. Then they are bitter and resentful later on talking about
how someone killed their dreams.
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