3 signs you are in the wrong relationship
26 April 2016, 22:55
Nairobi - A couple of years ago, I had a plan. The plan was to get
married by the time I was 25 and have babies. That time I even had a partner by
the way. Ask me what happened because obviously it did not happen. We lived
You know that time you go to see your boyfriend and one
weekend becomes a month? That sort of thing. We had been in a relationship for
five years and we thought we were ripe-like you know what I mean?
At times you do not see some things up until you are in
You do not realize
that your relationship is over
See each other only on weekends and odd dates and you will
think that you have a good thing going. You will not even realize that things
are not the way they used to be and that is what happened to us. We did not
even know that we had been trying so hard to keep the relationship together
until we started living with each other.
Someone thinks they
can put up with your character until they know your habits
There is so much faking and falsehoods in a lot of today’s
relationships that most people need come we stays before they do any other
thing. Trust me; you do not know your partner until you actually leave with
them. It is so easy to put up a front when someone only sees you for an hour, a
day or a weekend. Try living with that same person for a month, then two, then
three-that is how you know if you are ready for them and a life with them. We
were not. We had changed so much over the years that now even the slightest thing,
ticked the other one off.
You see what you had
been trying to prevent yourself from seeing
You know when someone tells you, ‘love is blind’? At times I
do not think that they are being romantic but they are sending out warning
signals. Like you need to really open your eyes and look. It is so easy to
overlook anything from your partner or what they do when you get to spend only
short periods of time with them. But try living with bad habits, bad attitude,
bad energy, every day and you are telling yourself that is what you want to
commit to. Now you start seeing that you
cannot deal with it every day for the rest of your life. Now you know, so what
are you going to do about it? Their drinking is okay when you are there for
only like two days until you realsie they do it every day. There abuse is okay
for two days because the other five you are not with them. Now imagine it very
single day. Waking up to it and sleeping to it.
There are the very few majority that cross over this point
and realize that they really want to be with this person. They are lucky
because they at least were real and honest with themselves by trying to spend
more time with each other to see if they could live a life with each other.
You will be told, ‘don’t live with a man if he has not put a
ring on your finger’ but at times you do not need that ring in order for you to
know that maybe you could have ruined each other’s lives if you had lived
together. That is just my honesty. You do not need to use a straight path to
get to where you want to go. At times you just jump in and see if you can swim.
If you can’t and meet sharks, you jump out and admit that water wasn’t for you
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