3 signs of a failing marriage
08 December 2015, 16:08
Nairobi - A lot of people will tell you that when you are with the one
that is meant to be, love, relationship and marriage is never meant to be hard
work. It is; but moving on it gets to a point when you are in a certain
situation, relationship and marriage when you realize that for you, it is over.
Not because anyone did anything, not because you have found love with someone
else and you are worried you will cheat or because your partner is turning you
off; it is just over and it is simple. But are you going to be the one to tell
them? No, most people do not because it is not about you alone but they are
also involved and you might have responsibilities together-kids and a business
or investments together. So you stay and struggle to make it work but it
eventually exhausts you and you give in, your partner can already tell and it
is because of the following signs.
Feeling like you owe
them to try and keep it together
The feelings are no longer there but you just stay because
most probably the person is too deeply invested in you and your relationship.
You see that they are clearly still in love and trying to make it work for the
both of you so you do not want to end things and hurt them.
You are afraid of what
will happen after you leave
Like I said nothing bad or negative has to happen for
someone to just want to call it quits with you. They are not being selfish, or
maybe they are but think of it this way, they more they keep it to themselves,
the more they are wasting your time and energy on them. They are being selfish
by avoiding the fall out.
People stay because they do not have a clear plan on what
will happen after they leave. Will they lose the kids? Will they fail and look
like fools after all the havoc they created in someone else’s life? What will
happen after? When they cannot answer that, they just think, ‘ah, what the
hell. I am almost dying anyway. I can survive a few more years of this.’ They
make a non-affectionate, neutral and non-evolving relationship stay that way
and deal with it. Everybody else does it anyway.
Overdoing it and
Once someone realizes they no longer want to be with
someone, they become desperate especially if they are married because they are
wondering maybe if they changed tactics, the feelings will come back. Maybe if
they tried harder and become more inventive, it would get better. Hence the
surprises that were never even there, too much PDA or trips and plans. Doing
chores they never wanted to do and basically becoming more erratic with their
affection and romance; they are trying to will the feelings back.
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