3 sexual requirements for men
28 January 2016, 17:50
Nairobi - Before I get into that, I was listening to a couple of
Kenyan men having a conversation. You Kenyan ladies are worried about other
women coming after you husband. The people you should be worried about are your
men themselves. To put it quite precisely, the word of the day was, ‘Long ago
it used to be about stealing another woman’s man, these days it is not stealing
if I am already married. I can have as many wives as I want. So she really is
not stealing because I am allowed to be with her as well.’
So, when you are thinking your husband is yours, what you
need to know is that when he is out there, he is everybody else’s-literally!
That got me thinking about the reasons a man would want to
marry more than one wife and to be honest, your sex lives is one of them. How
boring it is, how exciting, how experimental you are or how spontaneous among
Do you have boundaries when it comes to your partner, your
spouse, your boyfriend, or your man? What are the things you have told him he
cannot do with you? Now it seems he will just come and tell you, ‘I have
another girlfriend, she agreed to do this with me.’ What will you do about it?
What do you do if you cannot go beyond a certain point or
you do not want certain things to go to certain places?
channels while dating and in relationships before marriage are important
First of all, you need to match yourself who thinks like you
do when it comes to sex. That is the only way the both of you are going to be
satisfied and not disappointed. A lot of women shy away from talking about sex
even with their very own partners. So when he wants to ask something or talk
about something you act like it escaped you hearing. You are allowing for a gap
to come in that another woman can easily fill for you.
You can be
experimental, but if you are not comfortable with something speak up
If you are not comfortable going beyond a certain point say
so. Just don’t clam up when something is suggested. How do you know you will
not like it if you do not even want to try it? Try it and when it gets too
much, you let it be known. It is also a give and take, if you like something
then say so. If you keep quiet how will anyone ever know? People are not mind
When establishing a
boundary, offer to do something else as an alternative
That is the only way it can work. You cannot come here, but
you can go over there; that sort of thing. I do not want to do this but I am
willing to try this. Something equally exciting not something you already do.
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