3 relationship truths
28 September 2015, 18:01
Nairobi - I think that most people do not really know there partners.
I think that most people just went into a relationship just for the sake of
being in one. They do not know what they
are getting into with that other person.
I also think that at times you look at your partner and you
think, ‘what the hell was I thinking?’ But now you cannot take it back and have
to make it work. You look at them and they are so into you and what you ‘have’
and your legs are busy trying to get to the other side of the fence.
You have to know what you want from a relationship, and then choose
If you have no idea, then obviously you are going to keep
making bad decisions where the latter is concerned. That is the only way you
will ever make it work. Know what you
want from a relationship and choose a partner that will give you that. That
way, you do not pin your issues onto someone else.
Be realistic with your wants and needs.
Do not fall into the trap of societal expectations, you will
always loose. You like dating older people, then date older people because they
give you what you want and stop worrying what people will think. You are
materialistic, or like money then go after someone that can support that
lifestyle and do not put it on someone that is struggling to make it work for
themselves. You are hindering them because now they are struggling for your
minuscule needs and losing their bigger picture. You become less fulfilled
because no matter how hard they try they are not giving you what you want. You
like attention, go for a partner who will give you that. Independence is good
but we are all not made that way, so stop pretending and making someone else
feel miserable about it.
You need to both know where you want it to go
After a while, you are hopefully open enough with your
partner. Some of you want to get married, others don’t. Some want one child
others do not want any at all. Some already have someone else in the picture
and they are yet to let you know. Just keep your partner in the loop you will
find it much easier to deal with the aftermath because you were open with them.
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