3 reasons your relationship is broken
23 December 2015, 15:05
Nairobi - Is your relationship broken? Here's why it going down the gutter.
If it is not broken
stop trying to fix it
There is nothing wrong with trying to improve a relationship
or make it better that is part of its growth. The problem comes in when you get
into a relationship and you are already looking for problems to fix. It has
nothing to do with this relationship but that is usually baggage from your last
relationship with your last partner; it has not happened yet but you are afraid
it will. Who says it will even happen. That is why you are always advised to
solve your issues before getting into a relationship with someone. Don’t bring
it to them and play the blame game with them when they do not find a problem
where there is none. ‘You are not working with me on this relationship to make
it work’ if this is one of your taglines with them it is already breaking.
If you are not finding
that you are looking for in your partner it is a reflection of you
Hustling your partner; because that is actually what you are
doing. It is part of the reason people hate being in a relationship with
someone who keeps trying to change them. You are looking for qualities in them
that you already know that they don’t have. Since you cannot find a partner
with that yet, you settle on one and try to force it down their throat. In this
case, it is not them but it is you. What is it that bothers you about yourself
that makes you force other people to bend to what you want?
Focusing on petty
details and not seeing the bigger picture
Keep picking at the same thing and you will eventually find
what you were looking for; a problem. Some people never realize that by
focusing on that one small point or many small points they lost sight of what
they were actually getting which was more significant. You lost the important
thing, person or relationship because you were on their head every time with
simpler minute things but losing what it is they were there for.
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