3 reasons women prefer men with money
11 January 2016, 17:18
Nairobi - See I am not a scientist but let me tell you through my
experiences in dating; dating potential is like a game of Russian roulette. You
can only get lucky once and when you get that, run away with it. But when you
hit the first, be cautious on the second and the third time I advise you to
Dating potential covered in a very basic sentence; he might
not have it now but he might have it later; might being strongly emphasized on.
Then there are those pretenders who act like they really have a vision but they
are just happy you are not onto him yet. He is happy he has found a
hardworking, patient, bill-paying and problem solving woman. By the time you
are onto him, this man wised up and got you very pregnant and you are on the
count of two. You do not want to start looking again because he is the father
of at least one of your children. You do not want two baby daddies, now you are
stuck. It sounds very harsh but date a man who can support himself; if he can’t
but still wants a girlfriend then I think his energies are focused in the wrong
things. That should tell you why he is already wrong for you.
When you find yourself
handing out money all the time
When you find yourself always handing out money; last week
it was a car accident, this week it is something else. Because he is your
boyfriend at the moment you are thinking let me help out when he makes it, he
will remember my generosity. How nice of you to turn yourself into a cushion
because some man gave you advice on what supportive girlfriends look like.
Have you ever paid for
your own dates and surprising yourself
If you are doing that then my dear you are basically single
so stay single. Do the things you like on your own if you are already paying
for it yourself. You will take a man and think; he is going to make it
eventually so I will be around. Don’t be that woman, please. Let a man who has
found himself come and date you not the one you have to pick up always, pay for
dinner always, pay for his cab back home, always. Like really? Who is the man in
You now also take on
solving problems for his family
A story is told of a
woman living in her one bedroom flat. She has a boyfriend; she is not worried
because he is jobless. She is okay with it even though at times he is just at
home watching movies and taking a break from applying for jobs. One day she
comes home and the man’s relatives a sister and brother came to visit. She
comes home finds they have not eaten so she cooks them a meal before they go
back hungry. But see the visit was not an evening visit but a longer stay which
she was not involved in planning despite it being her house. They have also
come to look for jobs and guess whose two roomed house was going to be their
living space; hers! Every day leaving for a work and thinking they will be gone
but nope. The problem is not his relatives but because her one income has to
take care of everyone.
As a couple you can struggle and omit a breakfast and
lunch here but when you have guests, your budget is about to explode. More soap
for now four adults, more water bills, breakfast and lunch and dinner. Dating a
man who can’t take care of his own business will eventually lead to you having
to handle them for him; are you ready for that? I like it when some men take it
upon themselves to give the women bad advice by guilt tripping her and making
her feel like she expects a lot. That is why most women in relationships have
no idea how their men should treat them, how much she should take and
which one she should not tolerate.
So she is suffering because she does not want to be called
names. You have two choices as a woman; be worried about people who do not know
your struggle or stand up for yourself and not care what anyone thinks. When
you make that choice be ready to deal with its consequences of either being
happy or struggling so that you do not look like a ‘bad’ wife material.
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