3 reasons to dump him
14 January 2016, 19:31
Nairobi - For the married people, I am sorry but you cannot take a
break but vacations only; and you still have to carry them with you or they
Relationships on the other hand, it can actually save you,
the relationship or save you from making an eternally regretful decision.
When the both of you
are in that stagnant place
It does not even have to be the both of you but one of you
can just feel it. You no longer are that worried about your partner. You do not
care what they are up to. You are living in that mundane routine of same
things, same place, same time; you leave for work, say hi in the evening, go to
sleep, wait for the weekend when the week is over, try to have a drink but you
end up talking about work and repeat. When you get to that place don’t be
sacred to ask for a break or to take a break when you are no longer even
bothered to be excited to see someone.
That break is what you need to help you see if you want to
move on or you miss some things about them, no matter how small. If you breathe
easier and do not even want to make a call to have a conversation, then you two
were long overdue. If on the other hand you want to check on them and just see
if they are fine then that means you do still care and might still be willing
When the romance is
It can be a case of lack of spice, monotony or the horrid
one, you no longer find them attractive no matter how sexy they dress or try.
Lack of physical contact eventually leads to lack of emotional contact. But let
me explain it this way; if you can still have a stimulating conversation with
your partner and are happy to hear from them or look for it; then the romance
can still be re-ignited. If it has gotten to a point where they are just a turn
off even when they open their mouth then you might have a problem. Space will
help you figure out if you want to be with other people or are willing to work
on it with your partner when you get back.
When you two are
having a very busy lifestyle
People are known to be critical of those couples that decide
one goes to a hotel and one stays at home but that idea might have some merit.
People get so busy that they can easily look past each other without even
noticing that they are doing it. The excuse; too tired, too much work, a lot on
my mind; so why not? You spend some time in the hotel because you can’t take
notice at home, in a hotel it won’t be much of a difference, right? Just that
for some they will start taking a notice of what they take for granted;
companionable silence, buzz of activity
in the background and that us when they
see what they could miss it. This works well for married couples. On the other
hand, there can be a downside where someone realizes they are happier and do
not want to go back. In this case, you know the results.
Space has a definite effect and someone usually gets hurt
especially when they did not want it at all in the first place. But it can save
you from being too hasty in a decision like settling with the wrong person. Or
it can improve your relationship by showing you what you have.
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