3 reasons to avoid long distance relationships
25 February 2016, 12:11
Nairobi - This goes without saying that if you lack these qualities and/or characteristics; then do not lie to another person about how you can be with them. Long distance relationships are not a joke in my opinion, hizo zina wenyewe! We are also going to be very realistic with these qualities and forego beating around the bush.
If you are a highly sexual person; then this one is not for you
There is nothing wrong with being a sexual person; what is wrong is when you know yourself and put yourself in a situation that is going to force you to lie or cheat. This person might live many miles away, or it will be very hard in terms of expenses and effort to keep going to see them or vice versa. But you see, you like them and you see that they are really good people and you want them for yourself. You will make promises to each other especially if it is serious on how you will remain faithful. We already know that temptation is going to cross your path and chances are that no matter how well-meaning you are trying to be, you will fall.
If you are in a relationship and you have to keep saying it is complicated, then you are not in a relationship but someone who is playing with another person’s mind; mostly if you cheat with them and on them.
You need to be selfless
Long distance relationships demand more of you that the other type of relationship. One of you is always going to be the one making concessions and giving in. The one who has travelled is rarely the one that is always going to be able to get back but you will have to go to them. Most of the time you will want to be harsh on some things but you will have to learn to keep quiet. Your demands will go unmet and your expectations will take a blow every time. The worst part is not because they like to disappoint or it is within their capabilities to change the situation but because they just can’t help it. You will have to learn to live with it. You will give more than you will take.
They have a life outside of the people you are with
Let us be honest, the reason why there comes a point of a lot of neediness in a relationship is because the party who seeks a lot of that attention has nothing else going on for them apart from work and their partner. When this partner moves away, there is going to be a very large void that will be glaring at the person left behind and they will look to feel it subconsciously. It normally starts very innocently with you finding that person to talk to because you partner is not there until it graduates into being something bigger.
People who are in successful long distance relationships have other things going for them in their personal life such that by the time they are making that call to talk to their other half; they have so much to say. But if you are the type that is at home by a certain time looking wickedly at the phone until you doze off, we already know you are brewing something and cannot wait to shout at the other person for not calling at the designated time.
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