3 reasons they want to leave you
05 October 2015, 14:57
Nairobi - They want to leave you. But why?
You put too much concentration on getting the title
These days, people are not really interested in a good
successful relationship but being able to say I have a boyfriend/girlfriend or
that is my woman/ man and that is my fiancée and I am planning a wedding. You
rush into things just so you cannot look like the one who does not have it. The
relationship is not working but since you were not even paying attention for
the beginning, you do not see it. So you are even surprised when your ‘partner’
tells you that it is not working for them. That does not even make you mad
because you are already figuring out how you will get another one.
The relationship becomes more about what they like rather than what you
When you are single, you are learning what you want, and
what you will expect in a relationship. You are growing because you have taken
time out to do so. The problem comes in when you get a man that says, ‘okay, I
choose you. You are my woman.’ Then there is that screw that we normally have
intact in our brains when a man claims you, it comes loose. I do not know why
and it happens to the best of us. You shift all of your focus from you and
focus it on your partner, pleasing them and getting it right for him. Thing is
most of the time when a guy who is serious picks you, it is because he wanted a
partner, not a larky. When you become that, he loses respect for you because
you have taken out what was important to him when he picked you.
You are obsessed with getting it right
In relationships, good, productive and honest relationships,
something usually has to give. Those couples make it work because they know
nothing is 100% and your partner is never going to be 100% what you wanted or
expected. They work their way around
problems or issues that crop up.
On the other hand, you make it easy for people to walk away
from because you have a goal, plan and something you are working towards and
you do not make allowances. If it is not going your way, it is the high way.
You are 27 and wanted to be married with a child by 28. You get a boyfriend and
you do not really know them but you are already talking about a baby and
settling down. It is not their fault for not being ready because they are
trying to get to know you but you are not giving them that chance. He walks
away. One mistake and a person is immediately not your type because of what you
saw as you grew up. You have to learn to give people a chance for you to get it
right not according to your plans and goals but for yu to enjoy being with this
person and make something with them.
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