3 reasons she is not sexy with you
10 June 2015, 18:24
Nairobi - Drought is worse than boring sex. Famine is worse than
boring sex. Floods are worse than boring sex. Even eating bad, tasteless food
is worse than boring sex. There are a lot of things worse than having boring
and lackluster sex lives but boredom is the least of the problems that cause
her not to want to have sex with you.
We outline and hide behind the following reasons; stress at
work, stress with the children, too tired when she gets home yet there is a house
help. So as a man you can be confused especially when you find out she went out
and cheated on you. Was she not tired or stressed at that time?
It is not a matter of looking deep but simple.
She is no longer attracted to you
You know, with this one it is a bit tricky when you are
married. Because apparently, when you are married you cannot be with other
people also ‘open’ marriages is not a real thing! So apparently, you are meant
to find that spouse you choose attractive until you die. Or they die! That is
hard! Even I can admit that. So what happens when you stop finding your
lifetime spouse attractive and look over the fence? You are screwed unless you
can figure out a way to find them attractive again, which is what you should
make your spouse feel.
Let me tell you the simplest way to kill this one, if she is
not finding you attractive anymore, she is finding another person that
attractive. Find out who the other person is. A colleague, a neighbor, and a
boss I am sure you will know. Chances are those are the same qualities they
admired in you long ago that you slipped on and did not care about anymore.
That is why she is looking for them elsewhere. You need to bring them back and
looking good or smelling good while you are at it will not go amiss.
Do not bar yourself with that crap people hide behind; low
libido, women having low sex drive and what not. In fact, I will have you know,
women like sex to just as men do. We just tone down our actions towards getting
it unlike you, the men!
Hmmmn! How do I put this one? It is not her but you. You
know in the budding stages of a relationship women pretty much go all out. They
read books, look for biology, some chemistry, go through your Playboy stash,
and wear the pretty lingerie and all those nice things to keep you interested.
The wise man sees it, appreciates it and makes his woman
feel wanted and appreciated in her efforts by reciprocating.
Let me tell you what the dumb man does. He feels entitled
and makes her feel like she should work harder because he is here with her and
not out there with the others.
Eventually she runs out of steam and does not care anymore
that is when you start wondering but by then it is too late. Drastic is when
some other man shows her appreciation of those efforts.
You snooze, you lose
In other words, when you do not care, a woman learns not to
care too and that is the hardest trait to undo.
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