3 reasons not to hook up with an ex
30 March 2016, 19:05
Nairobi - A couple of things you probably should first think about….
You can’t just choose
to think of the stuff you want and forget about the other crucial things.
Why did you break up? What was the problem? Why did it stop
working out? A lot of people that get tired of dating and just resolve to get
back with the ex, choose to romanticize the relationship. They remember the
good times. They remember the beginning but choose to forget the ending. You
need to ask yourself if whatever broke you up is a resolved problem or
something you can actually work out. Don’t forget the problem then when it
resurfaces start asking why they did not change. Will you be ready for all that?
Are they willing to
newly work with you on this?
You know, there are some people who just don’t care. Like,
they are with you, but they just do not care. I could have used a bad word to
summarize that feeling but if you are in that situation, you know what I am
talking about. Don’t do yourself the disservice of trying to make someone like
you more, or force them to care or forcing the issue. They do not care and you
know. If you are the one that keeps looking back or trying to revive the
situation but they go a long with it because they have nothing better going on,
you should be worried. Getting back with an ex means that they also want to try
figure out if they can work on this with you. They meet you halfway. If they
are not, and are still doing the same thing, still the same people; reconcile
yourself to the idea that you are going to face the same problems and hence
imminent failure again.
Are they a bad habit?
Just re-evaluate the relationship and ask yourself what it
brought you. Relationships are meant to make people grow. You are not just with
someone just to be with someone. What do the two of you when you are
together-do you go on too many drinking sprees, you enjoy ‘having fun’
together, the company you keep when you are together but did you grow together?
Some people are a bad habit, be an adult today and accept responsibility for
yourself. You will save a lot of people the grief of trying to figure your life
and that of your children for you. Some meetings are not that interesting to be
a part of.
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