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3 reasons marriages collapse

17 March 2016, 18:41 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - Marriages collapse for a number of reasons. Here are a few.

Having unrealistic expectations

That is a set up because the first signs of any sort of trouble, you will easily give up. If you cannot stand the person that they are now, then you had better leave them be. Marriage does not change people, maybe improve their dispositions but not change them. If it does change someone for the better, that is usually a lucky strike. But you go into marriage with a clear head. Have clear goals and something practical. What you want to do and achieve in a year-upgrading neighborhoods, or changing jobs or starting a family business. But you do not go in telling yourself that the mother will like you more soon after you give her the first grandchild. Or you hope that he will top consulting her because he now has a wife. You will face trouble, if you cannot handle it, you were not ready. Marriage will not miraculously change someone’s income and enable them to finance the life you envy.

Using other people’s marriage or relationship as a benchmark for your marriage

You want to do this like they do. You want to be like them. You want everything they have to work out for you as well. Just like there is no other person like you who can do what you do, there can never be any two people or any situation that you can copy that well and live it. You are either in a relationship with that person that you choose or you are in it with the people you want to emulate. So which is it? Then after the choice that you have made, go marry that choice. You make a life with one person; you do not force them to live a life with other people or through other people’s choices.

In fact if someone came to me and told me they had such a spouse I would tell them to look for someone else who would appreciate having them because there is just no way you will ever please this person. They will keep looking for other people who are better and better.

You don’t realize what marriage really is about

Aside from the fact that a lot of marriages do not work these days is because of marrying for the wrong reasons; by extension we should also include that today’s generation does not really understand how marriage really works or what it is about. That is why people are happy to get biological donors for their offspring and go their own way. That is why it is okay for people to get divorced if they ‘do not get a long’.

People just don’t understand what marriage is about and what it is for. ‘Why should I have a wife when I have all these women offering to have my children with no strings attached? I can have both; no nagging wife and freedom whilst having the child to continue my name. I am fine!’

‘Why should I have a husband and entertain his nonsense. When I can ‘do me’ and not mind that nonsense.’

When you listen to such people talk, they have the wrong expectations from marriage and they will not be fulfilled no matter what you do. Their mindset is what is wrong-beware lest you be the better half because you will have a lot to contend with.

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