3 reasons he is not committing to you
12 July 2016, 14:35
Nairobi - I like being around men and listening to them. If you want to know your man’s brain, your female friends will not help you. The best people to pick such advice from is men and it is not because you are going to ask a particular question like, ‘He is doing this or acting this way. What should I do?’
What you are going to do is close your mouth and just sit around your male friends and listen to them talk. They are the fountain to the wisdom pertaining to them and all things men; relationships, sex, emotions, women and how they feel about all the above.
A male colleague and I were arguing about whether he should go buy me coffee….with his money!
I tell him, ‘… but you don’t need this money (semantics). You don’t drink and you have no girlfriend just go buy the coffee.’
He tells me, ‘… I don’t have a girlfriend but I have these tu-women, always disturbing me.’
Me: ‘Oh, women? Not even one, how many do you have?’
Him: ‘Ah, that is not important, but you get the point.’ (He went and bought the coffee though so I owe him lunch.)
So some lady somewhere is just out there thinking how she is special to my very nice colleague but he has tu-women.
If he is not committing to you, you might just be one in many
Or he just does not want to commit but for most men who are evading committing; it is because they are not done tasting the various delicacies. He will see you, he will entertain you, but he might just be doing the same for some other woman/ women.
You can get the odd weekend but it takes ages to pin him down
Those guys who are not ready for a relationship will promise how they might be available but you are secondary to a match on a weekend, a game, time with the boys and if, just if he will be able to squeeze you in, it is for a few hours. Not the whole day, the whole weekend or anything that has to do with wasting time together. He has things to do; you are just secondary.
This one is not the one that has time to be calling and texting
Initially, he will be attentive; because he wants to get your attention and put you where he needs you. After that, he does not need to try. You stop seeing other people because you are thinking he is doing the same but no. You will always be wondering why he has not texted or called. It can even go a week before you are the one that actually gets in touch but him, he moves on pretty easily to other things until he remembers you exist. Basically, it is not that serious for him.
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