3 reasons he ignores you
16 July 2015, 18:38
Nairobi - Do you know that a lot of women stay in a relationship that is past its due date while still looking out for the good thing that they want.
Unlike a man who will cut it off and take the risk by trying
it again even though the failure rate is higher than the success rate, a woman
does the opposite.
We do not take risks.
And we are not going to be cutting anything off for the
majority of us until she sees something on the horizon.
We are more afraid of the failure rate and its consequences
and would rather focus on that than the chance that we might actually find
someone that is good for us.
We focus on the ‘what ifs’. What if I make a mistake of
leaving and I cannot come back because you know he might have something else
lined up. Even the hoochy gets on our
nerves no matter the fact that she is there for two weeks. What if you are in a
phase? What if you are having a ‘period’ moment and make the bad decision of
leaving and he refuses to take you back? What if you never find him and he was
the right one all along, the best thing you ever had? What if?
As a woman, trust me, at times before we make a decision we
come with the most paranoid stuff to go with it that makes us take the easier
If you do not feel like that man is for you, move on and
stop wasting time. I usually have the best litmus
test for this. Just imagine him 10-20 years down the line. With a beer
belly, hairy everything, struggling to get out of bed- will you be able to
laugh about it or be angry about it? I like laughing and you would rather be
with someone that laughs with you even as they fall out of bed because they
have gained pounds over the years. Do not cheat yourself you will convince them
to go to the gym or eat a salad. If they do it, lucky you because they like
themselves but most people do not really care.
If you cannot get past the bad picture then what type of
relationship are you hoping for as the years go by.
The man that might be yours for keeps will not pick you
when you are with somebody else.
You will look needy
It looks good when you can say you are in demand but what if
you are miserable there and you are still staying? He sees it and the thing he
will ask himself is this, ‘Why will you not leave and choose to be happy by
yourself?’ ‘Can you not exist and be happy without being in something that is
making you miserable?’ He will have to deal with that if he decides to be with
you. If you cannot make yourself happy then you are depending on him and the relationship
that you will have to make you happy.
You will look insecure
Put simply, you are not secure enough in yourself to believe
that after you leave you will meet someone else. Insecure people are breeding
grounds for jealousy issues, demanding, insane possessiveness and obsession. No
one wants to deal with that drama.
Who wants to be going
around snatching other men’s ‘wives’?
No good man is going around looking to ‘hook-up’ with
another man’s woman. If he is then he is not good. It is that simple.
Good men stay away from other men’s women so if you want a
Mr. Right and we hope he is good for you, then you had better leave the wrong person for
him to want to be with you.
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