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3 reasons he ignores you

16 July 2015, 18:38 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi -  Do you know that a lot of women stay in a relationship that is past its due date while still looking out for the good thing that they want.

Unlike a man who will cut it off and take the risk by trying it again even though the failure rate is higher than the success rate, a woman does the opposite.

We do not take risks.

And we are not going to be cutting anything off for the majority of us until she sees something on the horizon.

We are more afraid of the failure rate and its consequences and would rather focus on that than the chance that we might actually find someone that is good for us.

We focus on the ‘what ifs’. What if I make a mistake of leaving and I cannot come back because you know he might have something else lined up. Even the hoochy gets on our nerves no matter the fact that she is there for two weeks. What if you are in a phase? What if you are having a ‘period’ moment and make the bad decision of leaving and he refuses to take you back? What if you never find him and he was the right one all along, the best thing you ever had? What if?

As a woman, trust me, at times before we make a decision we come with the most paranoid stuff to go with it that makes us take the easier route.

If you do not feel like that man is for you, move on and stop wasting time. I usually have the best litmus test for this. Just imagine him 10-20 years down the line. With a beer belly, hairy everything, struggling to get out of bed- will you be able to laugh about it or be angry about it? I like laughing and you would rather be with someone that laughs with you even as they fall out of bed because they have gained pounds over the years. Do not cheat yourself you will convince them to go to the gym or eat a salad. If they do it, lucky you because they like themselves but most people do not really care.

If you cannot get past the bad picture then what type of relationship are you hoping for as the years go by.

The man that might be yours for keeps will not pick you when you are with somebody else.

You will look needy

It looks good when you can say you are in demand but what if you are miserable there and you are still staying? He sees it and the thing he will ask himself is this, ‘Why will you not leave and choose to be happy by yourself?’ ‘Can you not exist and be happy without being in something that is making you miserable?’ He will have to deal with that if he decides to be with you. If you cannot make yourself happy then you are depending on him and the relationship that you will have to make you happy.

You will look insecure

Put simply, you are not secure enough in yourself to believe that after you leave you will meet someone else. Insecure people are breeding grounds for jealousy issues, demanding, insane possessiveness and obsession. No one wants to deal with that drama.

Who wants to be going around snatching other men’s ‘wives’?

No good man is going around looking to ‘hook-up’ with another man’s woman. If he is then he is not good. It is that simple.

Good men stay away from other men’s women so if you want a Mr. Right and we hope he is good for you, then you had better leave the wrong person for him to want to be with you.

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