3 questions to ask before sex
22 March 2016, 20:39
Nairobi - No one owes you anything after they have sex with you.
No, there is no but. Reread the first line and maybe, just
maybe, you will stop putting so much expectation on someone.
Mistake No. 1
Assuming that you are now in a thing because you have been talking for a while
and this seals the deal
You see when a man wants something from a woman; he could
pretty much sell any line to her to get it. He will be more attentive, very
diligent with the calls and texts and he will pretty much sound chirpy and like
a Casanova to get you to his side of things. See, he knows what he wants but do
you know what you want.
If you want commitment from someone, test their commitment
to being with you. If they leave because you were not ready then they saved you
from false hopes but if they stay, then you are headed for the right
direction-but that is still a maybe. You can just not win for losing.
Mistake No. 2 Not
reading the signs as they are being presented
You now had sex but the guy has gone silent, the
conversation is no longer hitting the right notes, he makes up excuses when you
try to get together and what not. Do not overthink this thing. I think he just
does not want to come out and say it but he is saying, he got what he wanted.
You cannot force someone to spend time with you and if you are able to get them
to come around but it ends up in sex, well then, you are just friends with
Mistake No. 3 Letting
the sex cloud your judgment
I have been reading quite the eye openers over the last few
days and one said; ‘Nothing confuses a woman more than a broke man with good
sex’ and a woman replied, ‘No, nothing confuses a woman more than a rich man
with bad sex.’ You see, you cannot just win for loosing. Both cases are
horrible for any woman who is not trying to cheat but be loyal and loving.
On that note, sex is confusing and when it is good sex, it
confuses a woman. Really good sex will make a woman think the guy is deep in
his feelings. Really good sex will make a woman think that because he is
putting in effort for her satisfaction that he cares. Analyze your feelings,
then analyze his then ask yourself if you can handle the sex without getting
confused. That simple.
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