3 polygamy facts
26 January 2016, 14:41
Nairobi - It seems you are all confused, but I am here to step in and
help you deal with the struggles of your conscience and decision making. I
don’t think your fellow men can advise you because they are confused as you are
and the one in that situation has to pretend he is happy so that he does not
look foolish for making that decision.
I don’t know what is happening but off late I am just seeing
a lot of posts on men championing polygamy and a lot of those articles from the
past on why it is good for you are resurfacing. I thought January was meant to
make you abhor the idea of spending but it seems that you do not see the
correlation between polygamy and overspending.
Let us take a moment and just think of all those prominent
men who died and left two or more widows squabbling. Let us take a moment and
wonder why Akuku danger died first and left all those women behind. Have you
ever heard of these prominent guys burying one of their wives while they were
left behind to continue merrily with the rest of his wives?
It is usually the
widows who bury him first; if that does not speak volumes to you then you
really must be more foolish than I thought. So we are going to go through this
thought process together.
I once read an article about how being polygamous makes you wealthier
as a man
It was research done where? Here in Africa; the rest of the
world is doing research on AIDS and Cancer but you all sat down and decided you
want to focus on why polygamous marriage is good for a man. Unless your bride
is coming from those communities where the bride is paying the bride price to
the man and his family; you really are going to fail at this. People do not pay
dowry anymore for that matter.
Polygamy will make you
poor. All those wives and all their
children no matter how rich you are; the spending factor is always more for the
man with more than one wife. No matter how you choose to look at it; you will
always be spending more. Then it is either you match each household; if you do
this for them and the others find out, you must do it for them too. If you take
her kids through to University, the second and third and fourth will expect the
same for their kids as well no matter how brainless one of their kids might be.
You can’t even give a gift in peace because if the other one finds out, you
have to do it for her too or do better. If the first household has a car and it
is because the first wife contributed, then the second wife wants a car too
even if she cannot support herself. What you do for one, you do for all or
suffer the headaches. You cannot take anyone to school in peace; if one has
prestige, they will all want it. You can’t buy groceries in peace; because one
wife always has the loudmouth to go tell the others what you do for her. If
they all want to kill you, you better take them seriously; it is never a joke.
Health issues are at higher risk
You see in a single household it is easier to figure out
what is coming from where. It is one husband, one wife; that is very easy to
figure out and catch. Now imagine a husband with two or more wives. These days, fidelity seems like a game so we
are going to assume no one came chaste to the relationship. Normally the second and third ran around with
the guy before being given a ring and I am sure that he was not their first. If
one guy is married to three women and they all collectively run a game on each
other-the village wife with some cowhand because he is not there to cater to
her. And we all know the ones in town do not leave in the same house; maybe one
might be faithful. But the man is visiting all of them; how do you figure you
will catch whoever brought the thunder in that household. You will all blame
the man but also as the women-what have you been up to while he was away? The
village wife sleeping with the cowhand will not come ask each town wife who
might be sleeping with a boss or gardener if she is doing so. Probably the man
was the one who was faithful to them as a unit but they messed him up!
Then there is just the issue of high blood pressure and what
not-you think dealing with more than two women is easy. Those men die because
they just chose the easy way out. You see how those women squabble in his
funeral is the same way they squabbled with him or each other every day of his
You think if the first wife is mad, you go be with the second until she
That is the logic of the man who decides to marry more than
one woman. This one stresses me, I will show her. Let her spend some time alone
and figure out why I am important to her. Let me tell you; women do not have a
timetable whereby all your wives will sit down and discuss when each can have
you and take turns. As long as you have more than one wife, they will always
have a reason to be mad and if the one you go to finds out you have been chased
out, she will find reasons to milk you of the situation. Just imagine Akuku Danger for example. All his
wives were living in the same location/homestead/boma. Do you know it has been proven that women living in such
close quarters end up falling within the same cycle? Just ask yourself when
that time came in Akuku’s place where he went or how he survived-probably why
he died first living them behind. Do you think he was as happy as you choose to
assume. If she is mad, he went to the next and next until he found a lucky
charm-probably the reason he continued marrying. He never found what he was
looking for every time.
So, dear Kenyan man you do not have to move states or
countries to marry as many women as you want. Our country allows you to do so
and I am sure there will be a couple of women who are willing to oblige you in
those quarters. Akuku did it, you can too but are you ready or are you just
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