3 lies people say in relationships
12 November 2015, 15:17
Nairobi - You see two people and you know they are dating, engaged or
even maybe married. One of them is a friend, a close association, a relative of
yours so they come and tell you the behind the scenes action of what is
happening in their relationship. You
give them a ear hoping that your advice will make everything better but you end
up feeling sorry for them because their partner is such a jerk! How can they
continue staying with them? How could they have ended up with such a person
when they are so good?
But have you ever noticed how when someone is telling a
story of their situation, they rarely say that they are the ones who created
the problem but are the ones suffering in the problem.
Some people are just bullies within their own relationship
They will come to you ad tell you how they were insulted and
how this person is emotionally straining them. They leave out the part about
how they always start it. They either neglect their partner. Some partners even
snatch money from their partner’s bag/wallet because they know the other one is
meek and will not do anything. This when, the partner told them they could not
afford something or that is all they had. When they come to you though, they
will tell you how they are not being helped out and why they have to be the
ones that do everything.
They start something that they do not know how to finish it
They will start the problem, build a mountain out of a small
issue but when it gets out of hand they are at a loss on how to close it. Then
they will blame it on the other person and say how they like creating problems;
yet they are the ones that turned something small that can be easily ignored
into something big. Now they are crying on your shoulder complaining as to why
they have to suffer with such a person.
If it keeps happening again and again, it is them!
There are no two ways about this one. All their
relationships are predictable when it comes to the problems that are suffered
in it: not with one person but with multiple people. It is not their partner,
but them. They are the problem. They are not the victim but instigator.
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