3 female habits that kill relationships
16 February 2016, 12:21
Nairobi - Sometimes women use tactics that destroy relationships. Here are some.
Losing an argument; cry! He is not agreeing to your side of
things; cry! You want things your way; cry! You do not want to explain
yourself; guilt trip, then start crying!
All of the above scenarios are a tactic that is generally
used by a lot of women, they look like they are working at the time but they
will eventually make you lose. It will become so expected in your relationship,
the moment you actually do want to discuss something; he shuts down because he
thinks or knows you will cry to make it go your way. It will reach a point in
your relationship; he will reconcile this habit to being a childish trait of
yours that the guy will no longer want to be with you. This is when a man will
tell you, ‘I came into this hoping for a woman but it seems you are a child in
a woman’s body. I need a real woman to be my partner, and wife.’
What will you do about it? Nothing because the damage is
already done no matter how much you cry you have changed.
Using sex as a weapon
or bargaining chip
‘We can have sex if you agree to….’; or ‘Help me with this
and we will…’; ‘Get me this and we can have sex…’ No matter how many times you
tell women not to use sex as a tool, only if it is a game the two of you play
or are in agreement with. For example; your man offers to help you with dishes
because he wants to have the fun stuff afterwards. That is different but if for
every situation; you have to bargain or use it to make him do something, you
will eventually lose. It becomes boring and tedious and it eventually leads to
someone seeking out. Why should he not be with a woman chasing him and offering
it on a platter when you are always giving him a hard time?
conversation to get him to your side
Maybe he told you something personal about his family, or
work or boss, or whatever it is. You know it is meant to be kept between the
two of you but wait until you want something to go your way. Maybe it is that
brother you do not like visiting or the friend that you do not like but now you
know he is cheating on his wife because your man told you. Now in order for you
to get things on your footing; you use that information to make your man do
what you want or say by making things uncomfortable. You do not necessarily say
it but you do slip ups as a threat if he does not agree until he does. That is
the last time you will ever hear your man tell you anything, trust me. That is
when a few years later, women complain about how their man never opens up to
them. You forget what you did a couple of years back.
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