3 decisions women usually regret
09 February 2016, 19:19
Nairobi - I have a deep understanding of how much love or deepness of
feeling can make a woman make some decisions that are hurtful or harmful to her
in her relationships. I have also done them, so I know! The worst is at times
when you don’t have the commitment from someone but you follow through because
you think that if you do this, it will help them along when it comes to
settling on you. These are the hurtful decisions because when you compensate to
get something you want, you don’t get it and you end up losing.
Your man asks you to leave your job and move cross country with him
You are not fired, nor have any bad situation at work but
you are considering doing it. What are you think at this point? If it is your
husband, we will get to that but if it is just a boyfriend the best decision is
not to do so. Someone who has not married you or is not your fiancé should not
influence such a big decision for you. What happens if you do break up? You
will have to move out and get back her. Do you think that that former job will
still be there waiting for you?
If it is your husband on the other hand, I suggest you think
whether you relationship is solid or stable enough to handle such a step back.
The situation you will be heading to is one whereby one party is supporting the
other. Unless they are getting a higher
income and will not be miserable about it because what you do not want someone
who will constantly remind you of how much of a burden you have become. They
will not remember that they are the ones that asked you to leave but the
Your husband asks you to be a stay at home wife
You need to consider how much of an impact you income has to
the family. If significant, you should not even consider it but if it is
something small and your husband is not that worse for wear about it; then you
may consider if it is something you
If he takes care of everything in the household without
muttering under his breath that is also a good reason that you may consider
especially if you do not want to leave your children with anyone.
But never do something in efforts of trying to make someone
like you more or it may change them to be a better husband. If they do not
treat you well now, losing your job will be one of your worst mistakes. You do
not want someone thinking you need them or cannot do without them. You need to
keep your job so that if they leave, you will still be able to support
yourself. Compensating only works short term in relationships. Long-term? Then
you have set yourself up.
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