3 common mistakes in relationships
17 August 2015, 15:15
Mistakes are common fodder in relationships. Here are a few that are too common.
Investing your time on those not doing the same for you
For any sort of relationship to actually work, you have to
be with someone who is putting in the same amount of energy that you are. If
you are the one who is doing all the calling, all the asking, all the looking
and rearranging yourself to fit into their world; it might not work or go far.
They have to be part of the process. If you are giving, they have to be also
giving. If they are not, then you end up finding yourself in a loop, invested
yourself in someone who eventually tells you, ‘you are not the one for them’.
If you are interested in someone, let them know from the
beginning that is how you avoid the friend zone. Don’t let them hold you up
because they are not sure. If they aren’t move on. If you wait around, you only
have yourself to blame.
Investing with your wallet
It really is nice to receive things-presents. The problem is
when you want someone and from the beginning of the relationship, you try to
win them over with what you can buy them. It is not their fault but yours when
you can no longer do it so they end up not being interested. It is like a game
you are playing. They go off the grid, so you dig in your wallet. If the wallet
is not available, they are also not available.
They end up liking you, not for who you are and just being
with you but for what you can do for them.
Changing for them
The people you chase after and want to be in a relationship
with do not like you for who you really are. You act differently in order to
impress them so that they would want to be with you. Maybe!
Thing is, what you are showing are your insecurities with
yourself, so why would you expect them to want to be around someone like that.
They can buy into it for as long as it interests them but it wears off and it
gets old. Then they move on. If they ever choose to settle with you, they will
never respect you because they know that you can be easily molded into what
they want. Changing yourself only makes sense when it is a bad habit you are
letting go of; otherwise, it is redundant.
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