3 Reasons why you are still single at 30
17 June 2015, 15:28
Nairobi - People think that women at their 30’s are no longer hot, most men would confirm this theory. While it is certainly a myths that women hit an invisible blockade at this age and no longer become attractive. One thing is for sure: Once you turn 30 especially if you're still single people treat you differently because they think you are no longer hot. You are the chick who should have everything figured out and know better. The 30s have a mystique of babies and boringness about them, but that's only because of dated notions that result in unsolicited, antiquated advice. Here are 3 reasons why you are still single in your 30’s.
You are looking for Mr. Right in the bar
You are not going to meet Mr. Right in a bar. You already spent a lot of time in clubs when you were in your teenage years. I don’t mean having a good time in the club is bad but it is not what can work for you when you emotionally and mentally want to be in a committed relationship. Yes you will meet great and single men there; of course anyone can be anywhere at any time, but if you are trying to maximize your chances at finding a quality gentleman, there are probably better places to spend your time. There are exceptions to every rule, but if you frequent bars or clubs and are looking for a serious boyfriend, the crowds you find yourself in may not contain the needle in the haystack you’re hoping to find.
You are too picky
It's funny how when you're a teenager, you're told never to settle before you reach for your dreams; never to settle for less even for men! After a few dates, you start to define those things you definitely don’t want in a relationship before your list of what you do want ever comes into focus. That struggle of wanting to stick to your guns on all the things you want in a man, is closing you off to opportunities. It’s definitely not an easy answer when you are in the thick of looking for the right relationship. When you're in your 30s, it's time to lower the bar.
You over rule online dating.
Online dating may be intimidating but it can expedite the situation you are in. It’s increasingly amazing how couples meet each other these days, and lots of people have had great experiences. Don't completely dismiss it. If you're still unsure, speak to someone who's tried it! I am not talking about those potential suitors with unsolicited pics or with confusing profiles. To get started create your own online dating profile and make sure it shines so that the right person may read it.
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