1 thing a woman should never do for a man
24 February 2015, 18:47
Nairobi - When you are with someone, and you are not sure that they
will be your happily ever after, maybe you should take a step back before
making a dramatic life changing decision. This especially goes for the women.
It is true that sometimes our emotional thinking wins over
logical reasoning especially when we make the decision based on love or because
the partner we are with has said so.
Just because they look good now, does not
mean that they will look good forever. When you make a decision and eventually
you and that partner part ways you start regretting especially now that you are
alone and the issue keeps coming up.
Exhibit A: I will take the best case I have come across yet.
Monyetta Shaw, is Ne-yo’s ex-fiancée.
When they were together’ all blissful and happy, they had two children.
They figured that they were now done with that chapter and they did not need
any more children. So they sat down together and instead of doing what a lot of
normal couples do, injections/pills or contraptions that people use, they
decided that one of them has to get snipped.
Not the both of them but one.
When it comes to birth control, men are very
staunch supporters but when it comes to them doing their part and getting
snipped they back away so quick which is the case with these two ex-couple.
So Ne-yo convinced Monyetta that she was the one to do it,
which I assume that most Kenyan men would do as getting a vasectomy mighty make
him less of a man; ‘who will know, unless you tell them though?
She did and look where it got her, she is no longer with him
and now he has moved on with some other woman he can procreate with if she
wants to or if he chooses to. Monyetta is in her early 30s so if she meets a
man and tells him she cannot have children and he wants to what do you think
In her case, it was reversible eventually but when you get
snipped in almost all case it is usually permanent. That is what making
decisions based on love does to you. You get irreversible damages.
When you are with your spouse let it be a decision made with
everyone doing their share of it let it be 50/50 so that you never get to a
place where you shoulder all the bad effects while they walk away guilt or
It can be buying a
house in someone’s name, let it be both of yours because if you divorce chances
are it will go to the one who’s name is on the deed.
If it is an account; let it be one that needs the both of
you to sign before anyone withdraws. Saves you surprises such as waking up and
finding out someone made a bad investment with your part of the money.
In other cases some women cut-off their family or even
friends just because of something the man said. When he is gone it is you who
is left doing reconciliations.
Do not let your love or like for someone close-off the
logical part of your brain from helping you make the right decisions for you or
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