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What Tiwa Savage’s public breakdown is teaching me and you should learn too

03 May 2016, 18:05

Nairobi - Having a public divorce is never what anyone let alone any woman wants for themselves. Tiwa Savage was one of those people I used to see have a career, family and marriage and I think I felt pretty great for her.

I do not know her personally but it was always good just to know at least she had that going for her as well. Until this past weekend when we all found out it was crumbling and I have to admit for a minute I was disappointed; not in her by the way but in the fact that she no longer had that. People who are not married have no idea of how much work, selflessness, giving, compromising and giving up goes into marriage. All that work and it all eventually bit the dust and it seems in her case; for the wrong person!

Her marriage had not been doing as well as we all assumed; she is not the first neither will she be the last. The only difference is that hers ended up in the limelight.  People put up with so much behind the scenes just to save face for themselves and it does get pretty tiring eventually.

That is why I will always advise any woman dating or in a relationship-do not rush into marriage. Unlike dating, marriage is commitment and you eventually learn that you cannot just drop it off as you would have any boyfriend. You will think; if it does not work, I will just get a divorce. But wait until you are in that situation. You quickly realize that it is not that simple to just give up at the slightest thing. Some of your selfishness goes and now you are no longer doing it just for you but for all those people involved -most importantly; your children.

You do not want to have given so much and more for the wrong person. A lot of women rush into it because they are thinking, ‘I am getting old.’ ‘I need a life and the only way to get it is through marriage.’ ‘I want children and I want them in wedlock.’

All true but do not do it with the wrong person because you will regret it. You do not want to sacrifice for someone that is not worth it. You overlook all those little signs that tell you that this man might not be what you want. You think that they will stop once you are married because they will now be mature and have children to think of. Doesn’t work quite like that. You put up with it because they are what is available at the moment.

Marriage to the wrong person will destroy your life. You want someone that will work with you. You want someone that is ready. Some people are not ready; they think they are and you want them to be but they are not.

Check for those habits, check for those inconsistencies and I will say, move in together. I have never been against moving in together because it personally taught me and the former person in my life that we no longer were meant to be together.

Some of you do not even know the person you are dating or in a relationship with. You think you know, but you do not. You cannot be 100% sure but for all that is important in your life; make every effort imaginable to make sure that you do. This way, after the honeymoon period, you do not get a reality check and start asking yourself whether you did the right thing.

After this reality check that is when it starts to hit you, you cannot call everything off. You are now working to cover up and put up a face. You do not want to be that person that when asked, ‘Are you happy?’ You have to lie and have a fake smile. It does happen and that is what our dear Tiwa might have been going through. I am not saying it is but you get the point.

Be smart about your life decisions and you will not regret it. You might be getting old. Yes, I am too but you will not see me sacrificing myself for marriage to the wrong man. Someone might be everything, have it all but if he is not that for you, he is not for you. Let them find what they need with someone else.

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