Signs your relationship is not headed anywhere
03 May 2016, 15:45
Nairobi - The reason most people stay in
relationships for so long and it eventually ends with nothing to show for it is
because they assume that it will eventually work out by some miracle.
some time, when they snap out of it they realize that they have wasted a lot of
time with someone that they barely know and if they know them they know that
they do not want to spend the rest of their life with that person.
But not everyone does this, at times, some
people just stick with each other because, ‘You are here. I am here. There is
no one sel. So let us just do this.’ That is why most of you are in
relationships and marriages you can barely stand.
These are the signs to look out for if you
want to know whether you relationship is not headed anywhere.
two have nothing to talk about
You are having a conversation but you are
not having a conversation. There is actually such a thing. Two people can spend
two hours together and they will talk about what they are eating, pause, their
exes, long pause. Then one of them will feel the strain and will look for
something else to talk about but no matter; you can just see that, wow, you two
have nothing to talk about.
People can be the same, can be different
but they always have something to talk about even if the other person does not
understand the nitty gritty-that interest is what solidifies them wanting to be
with you and listen to you. If you two cannot have a conversation, it is
already headed the wrong direction. No, sexting is not a conversation!
have always had an idea of the relationship you want and this is not it
As much as you meet a lot of couples are in
sync, you will also meet the ones that are forcing things. People stick around
in relationships that simply do not suit because they believe in God, prayer,
Karma, intuition and all those supernatural things that are meant to force the
other person to see things your way. It does not work like that by the way. If
it is not working now, my best advice has always been to leave so that you can
find something that works from the beginning. That way, when you hit bumps down
the road, you two understand each other so much that you are willing to work on
it. If it is not your ideal relationship, time and prayer and maturity from the
other person will not make it to be so.
still has one foot out
The one who straddles the fence and I like
the ones that tell you, ‘I am doing me. You do you as well and when you find
it. Don’t pump the breaks by all means go ahead because I am still looking.’ If
that is not a warning, I am not sure
what more you are waiting for. This one is blatantly telling you, you are not
the one for them but if they do not find it, they will circle back. You do not
want that. Go look for what you need and stop lurking waiting for someone to
notice and appreciate you.