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Signs your relationship is not headed anywhere

03 May 2016, 15:45 Shakila Alivista

Nairobi - The reason most people stay in relationships for so long and it eventually ends with nothing to show for it is because they assume that it will eventually work out by some miracle.

After some time, when they snap out of it they realize that they have wasted a lot of time with someone that they barely know and if they know them they know that they do not want to spend the rest of their life with that person.

But not everyone does this, at times, some people just stick with each other because, ‘You are here. I am here. There is no one sel. So let us just do this.’ That is why most of you are in relationships and marriages you can barely stand.

These are the signs to look out for if you want to know whether you relationship is not headed anywhere.

You two have nothing to talk about

You are having a conversation but you are not having a conversation. There is actually such a thing. Two people can spend two hours together and they will talk about what they are eating, pause, their exes, long pause. Then one of them will feel the strain and will look for something else to talk about but no matter; you can just see that, wow, you two have nothing to talk about.

People can be the same, can be different but they always have something to talk about even if the other person does not understand the nitty gritty-that interest is what solidifies them wanting to be with you and listen to you. If you two cannot have a conversation, it is already headed the wrong direction. No, sexting is not a conversation!

You have always had an idea of the relationship you want and this is not it

As much as you meet a lot of couples are in sync, you will also meet the ones that are forcing things. People stick around in relationships that simply do not suit because they believe in God, prayer, Karma, intuition and all those supernatural things that are meant to force the other person to see things your way. It does not work like that by the way. If it is not working now, my best advice has always been to leave so that you can find something that works from the beginning. That way, when you hit bumps down the road, you two understand each other so much that you are willing to work on it. If it is not your ideal relationship, time and prayer and maturity from the other person will not make it to be so.

Someone still has one foot out

The one who straddles the fence and I like the ones that tell you, ‘I am doing me. You do you as well and when you find it. Don’t pump the breaks by all means go ahead because I am still looking.’ If that is not  a warning, I am not sure what more you are waiting for. This one is blatantly telling you, you are not the one for them but if they do not find it, they will circle back. You do not want that. Go look for what you need and stop lurking waiting for someone to notice and appreciate you.

- MyNews24

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