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Reasons he does not want to talk commitment with you

03 May 2016, 16:52

Nairobi - Have you been dating someone? Have you been in a ‘relationship’ but you are not sure you have been in one? Chances might be that when you have such doubt it is because you do not have the latter.

A man will not have the commitment talk with you for the following reasons. I am not saying I am a man and I am sure that this is what he is thinking but we are just creating a rough map that will help you find the place you are going. It might not be an accurate map but it gives a rough picture.

He is sure he does not want to be your boyfriend

It is very rare to find a man that will tell you he does not want to be with you. Most hope that you read the writing on the wall. If he avoids anything relationship centered or on commitment, chances are, he is avoiding telling you that he does not want it with you.  This is why you are warned not to do wife material things for someone who does not commit to you. He will keep you around just to milk that situation.

Life commitment: He is sure he does not want you as a wife

If you have been dating someone for so long and you are ready for more but they do not bring it up, be worried. As long as the water is the right temperature the frog will never jump out. Do not waste your time by lying to yourself that if you stay long enough, he will be guilt tripped. Ask the question, get the answer then know how to move on from there.

As much as you have done with someone or been through with them and their family, it does not guarantee they will want you for the aftermath. That is the just reality and honesty but most women stick around because you think that someone owes you a debt. They do, they don’t- sad that it is their prerogative. Just don’t waste your life.

He is wondering how to tell you he has been seeing other people

You know when I wake up at the wrong side of the bed I tell women not to just date one person. Date and many as you can and use the elimination process. The one that treats you right, makes time, effort and what not, gets through. The one that is playing, well, they don’t. So that at the end of it, you realize that you are satisfied with the one you are eventually with. That is what men do. They date many and the pick the one that he likes and wants to be with. You might just be not the only one that man is seeing. Sad, but effective on their part; don’t assume you are exclusive unless you have had the conversation.

He knows you

When you are dating, there are things that you do not want to be known. For some of us those things are normal like, how many relationships, an ex and whatever but some of you have nasty secrets. You think you are smart but these things come out. Someone whispers in an ear, the man will not necessarily tell you he knows of your escapades but keep you around maybe to toy with. Find out if someone knows you, that way you know if you will ever get commitment out of them. You know, depending on your secrets.

- MyNews24


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