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How to avoid the wrong type of man as your baby father

18 May 2016, 18:01

Nairobi - I see a lot of bickering about single women, some man; a Kenyan man had to write about how they can’t find husbands. LOL! If she can provide for her kid, trust me, there is a man somewhere chasing her to provide for him as well. It is just a choice. You need to chill. He needed to have taken down his photo before writing such things. I was just like, ‘You look like this and you are passing such comments.’

Yesterday I had a man confessing to me how he does not have a wife, I am not sure if he was drunk because we had a conversation many months ago with him confessing how he has a wife and children back at home. With such picks for husbands you do now understand why Kenyan women are wary of men-you guys!

I believe in prevention rather than cure when it comes to the matter of ending up with a child where the man is bad news. The signs are always there, you just follow them.

If he has a baby and he does not help take care of the child

It will be no different for you. You will be on your own. So when you see a man that shuns his baby mother while she struggles and is trying to be with you, run the other direction. There are so many men everywhere; good men, run away from this one; especially if you actually do want a family and marriage.

He has more than two baby mothers

You want to be the fourth? As much as a guy is good, at times you need to like and love yourself more and let them be. They can find someone else, just like you will. Don’t think a leopard will suddenly become a cat because you are offering something juicy. They are all the same, okay, they are not all the same (you know what I mean). This one is presenting signs of one who quickly and easily gets bored as soon as he gets what he wants.

Does not treat you well even now

Self-esteem is something I think a lot of women need to acquire. It will help you open your eyes to a lot of things. The man does not like you now, shows you and treats you like bad breath but you still want to get pregnant. Don’t! A baby is not gold that a man suddenly sees. People are different. Nerea is a lovely song but most women know the harsh realities of buying into its ideas.

The way he talks about marriage, family and relationships

Not all single mothers wanted to remain single. Some fell into the trap of some men, ‘Have my baby to prove your fertility then we get married.’ Then as you deliver, ‘I don’t think this is working.’ He leaves you with a child to figure it out. Girl please! If a man says I cut some things off, listen to him; even if it is different, don’t be the one to try and change it. If he says, ‘I don’t want to ever marry’, listen to him don’t think stew and rice will change him. If he puts down women in front of you, you are no different. Just wait, he will show you if you stick around long enough and tie yourself.


- MyNews24

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