How to avoid the wrong type of man as your baby father
18 May 2016, 18:01
Nairobi - I see a lot of bickering about single
women, some man; a Kenyan man had to write about how they can’t find husbands.
LOL! If she can provide for her kid, trust me, there is a man somewhere chasing
her to provide for him as well. It is just a choice. You need to chill. He
needed to have taken down his photo before writing such things. I was just
like, ‘You look like this and you are passing such comments.’
Yesterday I had a man confessing to me how
he does not have a wife, I am not sure if he was drunk because we had a
conversation many months ago with him confessing how he has a wife and children
back at home. With such picks for husbands you do now understand why Kenyan
women are wary of men-you guys!
I believe in prevention rather than cure
when it comes to the matter of ending up with a child where the man is bad
news. The signs are always there, you just follow them.
has a baby and he does not help take care of the child
It will be no different for you. You will
be on your own. So when you see a man that shuns his baby mother while she
struggles and is trying to be with you, run the other direction. There are so
many men everywhere; good men, run away from this one; especially if you
actually do want a family and marriage.
has more than two baby mothers
You want to be the fourth? As much as a guy
is good, at times you need to like and love yourself more and let them be. They
can find someone else, just like you will. Don’t think a leopard will suddenly become
a cat because you are offering something juicy. They are all the same, okay,
they are not all the same (you know what I mean). This one is presenting signs
of one who quickly and easily gets bored as soon as he gets what he wants.
not treat you well even now
Self-esteem is something I think a lot of
women need to acquire. It will help you open your eyes to a lot of things. The
man does not like you now, shows you and treats you like bad breath but you
still want to get pregnant. Don’t! A baby is not gold that a man suddenly sees.
People are different. Nerea is a
lovely song but most women know the harsh realities of buying into its ideas.
way he talks about marriage, family and relationships
Not all single mothers wanted to remain single.
Some fell into the trap of some men, ‘Have my baby to prove your fertility then
we get married.’ Then as you deliver, ‘I don’t think this is working.’ He
leaves you with a child to figure it out. Girl please! If a man says I cut some
things off, listen to him; even if it is different, don’t be the one to try and
change it. If he says, ‘I don’t want to ever marry’, listen to him don’t think
stew and rice will change him. If he puts down women in front of you, you are
no different. Just wait, he will show you if you stick around long enough and