Handy tips for first-timers
17 October 2016, 13:16
People offer many different reasons for adding sex toys to their sexual repertoire. These include:
discover or increase the ability to orgasm
experiment with a wide variety of shapes, sizes and colours, and to try
different levels or kinds of stimulation
complement or enhance fantasies
- To spark
communication with their partners
- Because sex toys do
things people can't: revolve, vibrate, bend and twirl
having a sexual partner
sex toys are the ultimate in safer sex
sex toys don't replace partner sex - they enhance it
they're fun, as toys should be!
New to toys?
Try a few of these suggestions to make your first experience memorable!
Relax. Don't worry about what you should or shouldn't be doing with your
toy, or whether you're doing it right. Experiment; try using it all over your
body and see what feels good.
Go solo. Play with your toy alone before introducing it into couple's
play, this way you learn what feels good and can show your partner.
Try one toy that does several things. Instead of committing
to one type of toy, try a toy that vibrates and is insertable, or one that can
be used in a harness and for anal stimulation. You might find that you really
like to use a G-spot vibrator for stimulating your nipples.
Start small. When buying a toy for insertion, it's better to
err on the small side. If it's too big you probably won't play with it, but a
toy that's a little too small can still bring hours of enjoyment.
Use lube. Lubricant makes everything more slippery,
and will undoubtedly make any sex toy experience more enjoyable. A toy that
feels too big or vibrates too strongly might feel just right with the addition
of a little lube.
Be realistic. A sex toy might not save your marriage, or be a surefire orgasm machine -
but they are a fun way to expand your sexual repertoire and learn more about
your body and your pleasure potential.
first you don't succeed, try again. If one sex toy doesn't thrill you, use that
experience to decide what you do want the next time around: different size,
stronger vibration, softer material. Testing several different toys is the best
way to find what works.
resources books and videos can be a great way to learn how to incorporate toys
into your sex play.
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