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Advice to the woman that wants to be a second wife

23 May 2016, 14:29 Shakila Alivitsa

…And a third, and a fourth and a whatever…. (Keep it going)

So, what were we watching on was it Thursday or Friday? I don’t remember I don’t keep tabs on this nonsense.

It was a man from Meru with 31 children and apparently 17 wives with more to be added.  Isn’t that amazing? Inspirational? Leave it to a Kenyan man to have 17 wives. Don’t tell me about Akuku Danger and King Mswati we thought those guys were weird and we thought you would never even dare but it seems you were actually taking notes? Women ... and men, are you still wondering why I am running away from a Kenyan marriage? This is the one that is found, you can imagine how many more are there. All of them proud and happy but they don’t show you the drama on television, trust me. Some of them looked tireeeed, some looked like they had just been fighting and some of those ladies looked like commandoes, so if you are the weak one, don’t think your man (our husband) will step into that-he has to be equal and all.

Want my advice? Stay away from such, you will die early!

I want to talk to the young ladies though; the ones that are currently being wined and dined by someone’s husband at the moment with sweet words of how marriage is the next step.

I want to give you the important key to the puzzle: the wife!

You are lucky if you are coming in as the third or fourth because the second has already neutralized the situation. The wife is already used to it.

But if this man has already told you he has a wife (congratulations by the way some women don’t know they are dating someone’s husband) and is looking for a second and you want to be taken care of and so you are actually thinking about it? The wife is the important piece of the puzzle.


Answer: you do not want to deal with a demon of a woman! A she-devil!

Some men don’t have a second wife even if they have the ability to have one and they want one. Why? Because the wife in an undertaker! It takes a special type of woman to put her foot down in an African household and implement her wants from the husband.

You do not want to deal with a woman who will come after you. You need to find out if she is a crazy person and you can handle it. Some of you small girls don’t think before you act. You are so small minded just looking at what you can achieve instead of looking at what it will mean for you.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to tie a man through pregnancy when he is married to a woman who controls everything.

Most women who want to be second wives, want to be taken care of-yes be honest! That is the truth. So when you see the man is not buckling, what do you decide to do? Get pregnant so that you can go present your contribution to the legacy. It will be a very bad mistake on your part if you have no means and the wife has a say so.

You do this because you will go to the woman in the cries of the child being innocent-but that was your mistake. My dear you will scrub floors to take care of that child if need be.

He might give you a hand out here and there but if that first wife is ‘kichwa ngumu’ you are in for it. Your meal ticket has just become a reason for you to struggle and not move on and that is what a lot of young women never realize.

Find out how he talks about the wife and listen carefully when he picks her call. If he is cautious and pensive; you might need to rethink your decision my dear. You do not want that strife.

There isn’t enough room for my sister and I in the same house, every day, 24/7 for a whole month. I already know I cannot entertain other women; it is that simple. I am weak when it comes to some things.

You need to learn to look out for yourself no matter how attractive a man and his ideas are. Men know how to do power point, even without knowing how to use a computer. Men are professionals at presentation when they are going after something and what do you imagine happens after he wins the client over? On to the next one, you will not be the only one.  

Anyway, don’t listen to me, go be a second wife. I am already happy the woman population has been reduced by those 17 women. The rest of you can continue doing the rest of us the favor by leaving us the good men and eliminating the scoundrels. Go share!

- MyNews24


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27 October 2016, 10:03

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