Advice to the woman that wants to be a second wife
23 May 2016, 14:29
…And a third, and a fourth and a whatever….
(Keep it going)
So, what were we watching on was it
Thursday or Friday? I don’t remember I don’t keep tabs on this nonsense.
It was a man from Meru with 31 children and
apparently 17 wives with more to be added.
Isn’t that amazing? Inspirational? Leave it to a Kenyan man to have 17
wives. Don’t tell me about Akuku Danger and King Mswati we thought those guys
were weird and we thought you would never even dare but it seems you were
actually taking notes? Women ... and men, are you still wondering why I am
running away from a Kenyan marriage? This is the one that is found, you can
imagine how many more are there. All of them proud and happy but they don’t
show you the drama on television, trust me. Some of them looked tireeeed, some looked like they had just
been fighting and some of those ladies looked like commandoes, so if you are
the weak one, don’t think your man (our husband) will step into that-he has to be equal and all.
Want my advice? Stay away from such, you
will die early!
I want to talk to the young ladies though;
the ones that are currently being wined and dined by someone’s husband at the
moment with sweet words of how marriage is the next step.
I want to give you the important key to the
puzzle: the wife!
You are lucky if you are coming in as the
third or fourth because the second has already neutralized the situation. The
wife is already used to it.
But if this man has already told you he has
a wife (congratulations by the way some women don’t know they are dating
someone’s husband) and is looking for a second and you want to be taken care of
and so you are actually thinking about it? The wife is the important piece of
Answer: you do not want to deal with a
demon of a woman! A she-devil!
Some men don’t have a second wife even if
they have the ability to have one and they want one. Why? Because the wife in
an undertaker! It takes a special type of woman to put her foot down in an
African household and implement her wants from the husband.
You do not want to deal with a woman who
will come after you. You need to find out if she is a crazy person and you can
handle it. Some of you small girls don’t think before you act. You are so small
minded just looking at what you can achieve instead of looking at what it will
mean for you.
Don’t make the mistake of trying to tie a
man through pregnancy when he is married to a woman who controls everything.
Most women who want to be second wives,
want to be taken care of-yes be honest! That is the truth. So when you see the
man is not buckling, what do you decide to do? Get pregnant so that you can go
present your contribution to the legacy. It will be a very bad mistake on your
part if you have no means and the wife has a say so.
You do this because you will go to the
woman in the cries of the child being innocent-but that was your mistake. My
dear you will scrub floors to take care of that child if need be.
He might give you a hand out here and there
but if that first wife is ‘kichwa ngumu’
you are in for it. Your meal ticket has just become a reason for you to
struggle and not move on and that is what a lot of young women never realize.
Find out how he talks about the wife and
listen carefully when he picks her call. If he is cautious and pensive; you
might need to rethink your decision my dear. You do not want that strife.
There isn’t enough room for my sister and I
in the same house, every day, 24/7 for a whole month. I already know I cannot
entertain other women; it is that simple. I am weak when it comes to some
You need to learn to look out for yourself
no matter how attractive a man and his ideas are. Men know how to do power
point, even without knowing how to use a computer. Men are professionals at
presentation when they are going after something and what do you imagine
happens after he wins the client over? On to the next one, you will not be the
Anyway, don’t listen to me, go be a second
wife. I am already happy the woman population has been reduced by those 17
women. The rest of you can continue doing the rest of us the favor by leaving
us the good men and eliminating the scoundrels. Go share!