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A Kenyan man is going to do what he wants to do

09 May 2016, 16:52 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - I like it when a woman thinks she can control a man. It just amuses me because no matter what you tell this woman.

I know a lot of women, who went into marriage thinking she could manage the man, control the man, curb the man’s tendencies and so on.  Many years later she now realizes that all this time, she was giving herself headache for nothing because he still found a way to achieve his purpose.

If you know a man, date him and you know his character, his habits and what he likes to do that you do not like, sit yourself down and have a conversation with yourself. It should not be long, just something like this, ‘I accept him as he is.’ That is all.

I know a woman; of course I had to know someone so that I can tell you a story. She married this man and they used to hire helps. Seems this guy has a thing for the maids. Every maid she would hire, the man will just find a way to have a thing with her. So over a period of time, she kept hiring and immediately firing them until finally, the man got one pregnant. She fired the girl again but she now was permanently a part of their lives. The maid stayed until the son was like two then she went home. But guess who set her up? The man.  The child being a constant reminder to the lady, and you know they are also church leaders-the secret could not be out and he was also a photocopy of the man; can’t even lie he is a cousin. He went back home to stay with the mother.

Now here is the twist, the woman being a woman, thinks she can curb the man so she decides from then on, there will no longer be any house girls but house boys. She thought she had outsmarted the man but now in their old age, it comes out that whenever the guy was not around but going for a trip ‘home’, he had gone to visit that maid that was fired years ago. She is now like a co-wife. This man’s kids with this wife have grown up and now anything financial, even when they have an idea for any of his lands on how it can be developed as a source of income; he does not want to hear any part of it. All his money goes to that ‘maid’ back in the village and all his lands here and everywhere else have been saved for that son he had with the maid. You think he only has daughters with the wife? No, he has two sons and one of the sons is unemployed but the dad does not want to help. His everything is going to that child; they are on their own as far as he is concerned.

How about playing yourself in life? This is why I tell you women, the face a man shows you when you date him and as you get to know him, is the face you should accept. You cannot change him. You cannot stop him and you cannot curb him. You cannot control a man even if he is your husband. If he wants to do something, he will find a way to do it and for all the good you are trying to do, you will still look stupid in the end. Now, this wife, her pension is not that large, if not for her daughters, she would be in a mess. All these years with a man and when it comes right down to it; you think you are showing him, well, he will show you.

Don’t compete with a man; you will not beat him at his own game. If he wants to play with the maid, he will play with the maids. If he wants to waste his money, you will not know and neither will you be able to control that. A man will only tell you a quarter of what he earns; he will never even tell you if he got promoted at work. Heaven forbid you try hindering his progress in life.  You will be happy because you think you are now wise because he is letting you plan for him. But girl, where is the other three quarters that you do not know about going? If he wants to set up some wives in the village because he is a philanderer you think you will know? A man will wear a suit and go to work Monday to Saturday when he has no job but because you are trying to force him to be what you want; he will just play along.

Just take what a man gives you from the beginning. You either accept it or walk aeay but don’t think you can control him.

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