Why you should try online dating
09 July 2012, 14:01
Blogger Manni Bradshaw says it’s quick, easy, convenient AND cheap. Think it’s time we abandon our ‘old-school mentality’ and just get with the times?
Thanks to the relentless advancement of modern technology, we live in a
world where everything is instant and readily available and in a society
that celebrates a simpler, better, faster existence, it's hard not to
take things for granted.
The rapid pace of information
technology means that we've grown accustomed to getting what we want
when we want it. Anything your heart desires is just a simple click
away: designer labels, timeshares, special holiday packages, even the possibility of finding your true "Soulmate69" can be accessed online in the comfort of your own home. Let's face it, we're all linked in one way or another.
While the rest of the world was busy, Brenda and I were
exploring another kind of virtual reality. For the first time in her
life, Brenda was single and willing to venture into all kinds of dating
avenues. In a few short months, she had tried everything from speed dating and social networking to the occasional blind hook-up,
each one more unsuccessful than the last. As she slowly exhausted her
options, she decided to optimise her search towards something a little
more unconventional. It was not long before she found herself entering a
domain where so many fear to tread. Oh yes, Brenda was about to embrace
the vast and expansive world of online dating.
Sam was no
stranger to virtual encounters although her needs were quite different
to Brenda's. She had hoped that her words of wisdom would ease some of
the stigma associated with online dating.
"It's just like online shopping, babe. Just type in what want, hit search, add to basket and check out".
Was it really that easy?
answer was yes. It only took one click before Brenda was faced with
hundreds and thousands of pop-up profiles, all waiting for a chance to
be "Undiscovered" or perhaps "Perfect4U".
Was the convenience of online dating what made it so appealing?
eye colour, photographs, dick size, food preferences, what's he's
looking for in a partner, what he's into...you can get them in any size
and colour you want thanks to the wealth of information available at
your fingertips. And if the basic information is not enough for you, the
internet provides expanded profile options for a more detailed look
into your subject's physical, financial, psychological and emotional
Think of all that precious time saved trying to figure
someone out when the computer can do it for you? Have service providers
finally found a way that caters for our incessant need for easy and
instant access? Whether it's sex, long-term relationships, activity
partners or even just friends, online dating seems to have a solution
While I was no stranger to internet dating, there was only one boy that made a lasting impression.
name was Ian and I'll always know him as the one that got away. We had
been chatting online for weeks before we finally decided to meet outside
our virtual co-existence. We met for cosmo's at the Metropole one
Friday night and I was almost certain the date had been a complete
disaster. Despite the head start of things to talk about on a first
date, there was no sign of that instant spark. I felt a glitch coming
on. Was the spark not included? Did it cost extra?
convinced that our union would never last beyond our online connection
but somehow we managed to stick it out for a month and a while, perhaps
to give the spark some time. As our realities began to merge, I thought
it was time for him to meet my friends, a reality that he was not
prepared for. My friends in those days were understandably way too much
for someone of his maturity - a lesson I learned later in life as I
out-grew them myself. This fault in the system caused our relationship
to malfunction and fizzle away somewhere deep into cyberspace.
The benefits of online dating seem to work well with today's socially awkward youth.
of us are down to our last resort and have no choice in the matter
while others find the prospect of pre-ordering compatibility morally
repugnant. It's apparent that chance meetings and instant sparks are
becoming less and less. Had they become as obsolete as VHS? The more I
thought about the virtual influence of online connectivity, the more I
wondered whether internet relations would one day completely replace
Have the days where actual boy meets girl in bar
gone by? A call instead of a ping or status update? Has the new age of
information technology finally overshadowed the conventional methods of
dating and romance or is it simply a catalyst for surviving the instant
nature of the 21st century?
When it comes to dating, I couldn't help but wonder, should we abandon old school mentality and just get with the times?
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