The lengths women take to find Mr. Right
14 November 2014, 13:06
Nairobi - When Cinderella lost her sparkling shoe, her prince went around searching for the right foot that would fit the shoe perfectly. And once he found it, his heart was satisfied.
Things have changed since the days of Cinderalla and courting isn't only done by men. Women are being more active in the quest of finding their prince charming.
So I watched The Bachelorette over the weekend. I didn’t mean to watch because I prefer watching its opposite, The Bachelor.
See, with The Bachelor, I get to see all sorts of crazy drama and diva tactics women conjure against each other. It gets really heavy and fun to watch when they all mope and cry over one man, and would do just about anything to get his attention.
It’s a tough world out there!
So when The Bachelorette aired, I wasn’t all for it. But I was interested and fascinated in seeing a woman call the shots over 25 male contestants.
The idea of having this one woman choose a suitable companion from 25 men left me a bit amazed and doubtful! First of all, as a woman, I know how attached and sensitive our feelings can get, even when we try to control it, somehow we are just weakened by the beauty of a man or his physique or his character.
So when a pool of such qualifying men live under one roof and constantly gesture one woman’s attention, what happens? Her confused self gets all emotional and can’t decide.
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I made a statement that such shows are literally just heart-breaking to see because out of all these guys only one will be wear the crown. He gets to have her, go down on one knee, or any other romantic marriage proposal setting, and ask her to be his wife.
But I still think it's heart-breaking that a woman’s fate is promised on the many lips she has to kiss.
The only fear I have with shows like The Bachelorette is that she will wake up one day, (with her rose-budded chosen husband) and wonder if she has made a mistake by not choosing one of the other contestants.
Women are special and they have all types of confusing characters and underlying issues that only they know the language to.
So I ask myself, what are the motives of these lonesome men or a woman airing open relationships habits to the public? Is it love? Is it desperation? Or just to test waters and see who or what the “perfect man or woman” is like?
Movies like Cinderella have shifted this belief in a woman’s mind that we all need a knight in shining armor, but such initiation is affecting because one goes around searching, then thinking “he is not the one,” and then the train of love takes you to another station.
We are all familiar with the opening line to that new butterfly feeling right? It starts with: “my friend, s/he is the one, and this time I am sure of it." And the closing line is mastered by you saying: “they are all the same.”
Of the many hugs and smiles of romance we accept and reject, are we to bend over and kiss frogs in order to meet prince charming? And when do we get tired of kissing all the different frogs?
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