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Stop living beyond your means

24 April 2013, 12:41 Kay Kekana

Putting yourself in debt to buy that hot dress will not make you fit in. shares her thoughts.

I once saw a movie where the leading lady couldn’t afford an item of clothing that she really, really wanted and ended up buying it on credit, only to take it back to the store AFTER she had worn it, price tag and all.

Well, I just found out that this type of behaviour isn’t something that exists only in movies.

It was just a couple of days ago when I got into a debate with group of ratchet girls who regularly do this.

Miss ‘Thang’ over there was convinced that there was absolutely nothing wrong with popping into a high end clothing store to purchase an outfit, wear it for the night, and take back within the return date period.

I was appalled...

Surely this practice is dishonest? And also, why buy something if you have no intention of owning it? AND if your budget is that low, why don’t you just rather stick to a store that sells stuff that suits your pocket.

These are all questions that I asked her and, of course, they were met with silly, superficial reasons – one of them being that she just HAD to be seen in an expensive dress.

Are you kidding me?

She also told me that her mother (who often spoils her with clothes) would by no means take her to such an expensive store. That makes it clear to me that this sort of behaviour is not something she was taught at home.

I assume she feels pressurised by her friends to project a certain type of lifestyle. But I just have to ask:

Why go out and live beyond your means, (or at least pretend to live beyond your means)? Why feel the need to portray yourself as living a lifestyle that you know you can’t maintain?

It’s forgivable when young girls do the silliest of things to fit in with their friends, but grown-ass women doing it should know better.

It’s scary to think that women purposefully put themselves into debt at a young age simply because they feel the need to own the latest handbags, shoes and weaves.

The need to secretly compete with their peers on a materialistic level is ridiculous. I suspect they feel that it is what defines their social status? Shem.

This is also what leads to young girls going out looking for ‘Sugar Daddies’ which leads to them being in exploitative and sometimes abusive relationships for the sake of money.

Too many girls ruin their futures chasing after the wrong things. I can’t imagine why one would want to entrap oneself to such a lifestyle.

I feel it’s quite simple: just do what you need to do to secure a future and all the rest will follow.

Fancy things and unnecessary luxuries should be attained through hard work, not cheating.

Sure we don’t all have the same circumstances but, dogging your morals and self respect for the sake of fitting in is a shallow way of showing your worth.

Just saying.

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