Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.

Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.


Sexting is common in serial cheaters

09 July 2015, 10:11

A new study finds that the practise of "sexting" - sending salacious texts or nude photos over the Internet - is now a key tool for those bent on infidelity.

Sexting is "alive and well," said sociologist Diane Kholos Wysocki, the study's lead author. In fact, she said, it's a part of the whole extra-marital mating ritual, according to Wysocki, who said adulterous interactions that begin online seem to follow a regular pattern.

"People meet, then they send pictures, then they send naked pictures, then they proceed and ultimately meet if they find that they're compatible," she said.

The study, based on a survey of almost 5,200 users of a website devoted to extra-marital dating called ashleymadison.com, doesn't say anything about the habits of the people in general. And, as Kholos Wysocki acknowledged, its value is also limited because it only includes those people who volunteered to take part and were already using the site.

Read Also: My one time interaction with a married man

"Any time you get a group of people on the Internet, we can't say it's representative," said Kholos Wysocki, a professor of sociology, University of Nebraska at Kearney. However, she said the survey does offer insight into why people choose to stay married but still have affairs.

Sexting and cheating

As of a few years ago, the website, whose motto is "Life is short. Have an affair," claimed more than 6 million members. Working with the site, Kholos Wysocki in 2009 posted a survey for members with 68 questions. The results appear in an online issue of the journal Sexuality & Culture.

Those who responded tend to be upscale (with a median income of about $86,000), mostly married (64%) and highly educated (about 70% attended college, and 20% had advanced degrees). More than six out of every 10 respondents were male.

Sixty percent of the women and close to half of the men said they'd engaged in sexting - sending naked photos of themselves via e-mail or cell phone. Age was no bar for the practise, since about 40% of people over the age of 50 had done so. However, sexting was much more likely among the few surveyed who were aged 19-24.

About three-quarters of people of both genders acknowledged having cheated while in a serious relationship. More than eight in 10 women and two-thirds of men said they'd met people in person after first encountering them online. That suggests many users plan on consummating an extra-marital relationship, not just looking and flirting online.

Jeffrey T. Parsons, professor of psychology at Hunter College in New York City, said the finding isn't surprising. "People who are going to use a website to look for extra-marital affairs are probably willing to go the distance, as it were," he said. "Sure, there are probably some who just use the website for the titillation factor and the sense of thrill and danger and perhaps 'being bad.' But the nature of the website no doubt attracts those who are interested in more than just cybersex."

Read Also: How to affair-proof your marriage

The Internet and cheating

In some cases, spouses weren't kept in the dark. "There were a number of them who went on there with their spouses, looking to add to their sex life," Kholos Wysocki noted.

Psychology professor Parsons explained that "there are adults in consensual relationships in which sexting, cybersex, and even in-person sexual relations with other people are negotiated and allowed."

What has the Internet's overall impact been on adultery? "You can't blame cheating on the Internet," Kholos Wysocki reasoned. "People who don't have the Internet are still cheating."

However, she said, the Internet has probably made it easier to find new partners. "It takes less time," she said.

For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!

- Health24


Sex talk

27 October 2016, 10:03

Read News24’s Comments Policy

Comment on this story
Comments have been closed for this article.

Read more from our Users

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
Leave ODM if you are unhappy, Rai...

Leave ODM if you are not happy, Raila Odinga tells Senator. Read more...

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
Former Assistant Minister joins J...

A former Assistant Minister has quit PNU and joined the Jubilee Party. Read more...

Submitted by
Victor Tinto
DP Ruto intervenes as Kerio Valle...

DP William Ruto will visit Kerio Valley to try solve never-ending clashes between local residents. Read more...

Submitted by
Wilson Ochieng
ODM MP chased down by angry Kibra...

Kibra MP Ken Okoth had a hard time in his constituency after angry youth pelted him with stones. Read more...

Submitted by
Wilson Ochieng
Prepare for DP Ruto fight in 2022...

An MP has warned that the Kalenjin Community will not stand back and watch as DP Ruto is duped ahead of the 2022 polls. Read more...

Submitted by
William Korir
Be careful who you deal with, DP ...

Watch out for your political future, DP William Ruto has been warned. Read more...